Coaching Life-Changing Small Group Leaders: A Practical Guide for Those Who Lead and Shepherd Small Group Leaders PDF
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031020755X_relation_fm.qxp 9/8/06 2:21 PM Page 1 This page is intentionally left blank C O A C H I N G LIFE-CHANGING s m a l l g r o u p L E A D E R S 0310251796_coaching_lcsg.indd 1 2/13/06 8:30:19 AM Also by Bill Donahue Building a Church of Small Groups (with Russ Robinson) Leading Life-Changing Small Groups (with the Willow Creek Small Groups Team) Seven Deadly Sins of Small Group Ministry (with Russ Robinson) Walking the Small Group Tightrope (with Russ Robinson) 0310251796_coaching_lcsg.indd 2 2/13/06 8:30:20 AM A P R A C T I C A L G U I D E F O R T H O S E W H O L E A D A N D S H E P H E R D S M A L L G R O U P L E A D E R S C O A C H I N G LIFE-CHANGING s m a l l g r o u p L E A D E R S B I L L D O N A H U E G R E G B O W M A N 0310251796_coaching_lcsg.indd 3 2/13/06 8:30:20 AM ZONDERVAN Coaching Life-Changing Small Group Leaders Copyright © 2006 by Willow Creek Association All rights reserved under International and Pan -American Copyright Conventions. By payment of the required fees, you have been granted the non -exclusive, non-transferable right to access and read the text of this e-book on-screen. No part of this text may be reproduced, transmitted, down - loaded, decompiled, reverse engineered, or stored in or introduced into any information storage and retrieval system, in any form or by any means, whether electronic or mechanical, now known or hereinafter invented, without the express written permission of Zondervan. AER Edition January 2009 ISBN: 978-0-310-31689-3 Requests for information should be addressed to: Zondervan, Grand Rapids, Michigan 49530 Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Donahue, Bill. Coaching life-changing small group leaders : a practical guide for those who lead and shepherd small group leaders / Bill Donahue and Greg Bowman. p. cm. ISBN-13: 978-0-310-25179-8 ISBN-10: 0-310-25179-6 1. Christian leadership. 2. Small groups. 3. Church group work. 4. Personal coaching. I. Bowman, Greg. II. 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These websites are not intended in any way to be or imply an endorsement on the part of Zondervan, nor do we vouch for their content for the life of this book. 06 07 08 09 10 11 12 • 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 0310251796_coaching_lcsg.indd 4 2/13/06 8:30:21 AM Contents Introduction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9 Part 1: A Vision for Coaching Section 1: The Call to Coaching. . . . . . . . . . . 12 Section 2: The Need for Coaching . . . . . . . . . . 16 Part 2: The Essence of Coaching Section 1: Embrace a Vision for Transformation . . 20 Section 2: Nurture Your Love of Community . . . . 23 Section 3: Cultivate a Passion for Developing Leaders . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24 Section 4: Develop the Heart of a Shepherd . . . . . 26 Part 3: A Coach’s Key Practices The Big Picture . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 30 Key Practice 1: Modeling: Pursue Christ-likeness . . 31 Key Practice 2: Guiding: Shepherd Intentionally . . 37 Key Practice 3: Envisioning: Dream Together . . . . 43 Key Practice 4: Equipping: Develop Skills. . . . . . 48 Part 4: The Coach’s Toolbox Section 1: An Overview of Coaching . . . . . . . . 54 Understanding Your Role An Overview of the Tools Where Should I Begin? Section 2: One-on-One Conversations . . . . . . . 57 Relationships First Guidelines for Effective One-on-One Conversations 0310251796_coaching_lcsg.indd 5 2/13/06 8:30:21 AM How Do I Do This? Helpful Questions Sharpen Your Skills Men and Women in Coaching Relationships Guiding Spiritual Growth: Developing a Shepherding Plan (Development Aid) Guiding Skill Development: Eight Guides for Conversations between a Coach and a Leader (Development Aid) Section 3: Leadership Huddles . . . . . . . . . . . 82 A Learning Community Biblical Examples of Huddles Planning a Leadership Huddle Leadership Huddle Planning Guide (Development Aid) Conducting Huddles Evaluating Huddles Coaching Huddles: Eight Guides (Development Aid) Modeling Personal Growth Shepherding Your Leaders Building Authentic Relationships Resolving Confl ict in a Healthy Manner Extending Care and Compassion Becoming an Inclusive Community Reaching Out to Seekers Developing Future Leaders Section 4: Visiting Groups. . . . . . . . . . . . . 102 The Purpose of Group Visits Keys to Effective Group Visits Making the Group Visit After the Group Visit Planning a Group Visit (Development Aid) Observations during a Group Visit (Development Aid) Section 5: Troubleshooting . . . . . . . . . . . . 110 Confl ict Resolution The Open Chair: How to Add Members to a Group Helping Group Leaders with Apprentice Selection and Development Group Multiplication (Birthing) Raising Up an Apprentice Coach (Development Aid) Birthing Your Huddle (Development Aid) 0310251796_coaching_lcsg.indd 6 2/13/06 8:30:22 AM Part 5: A Coach’s World Section 1: Establish a Sustainable Pace . . . . . . 118 Section 2: Create Care Covenants . . . . . . . . . 121 Care Covenant (Development Aid) Section 3: Maintain Clear Communication . . . . 123 Section 4: Live in Community. . . . . . . . . . . 124 Section 5: Know When to Step Down . . . . . . . 125 Part 6: Building a Coaching Structure A Guide for Small Group Ministry Point Leaders Section 1: Clearly Defi ne the Coaching Role . . . 128 Section 2: Recruiting Coaches . . . . . . . . . . . 128 Section 3: Choose and Establish a Structure . . . 129 Section 4: The Transition from Group Leader to Coach . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 130 Section 5: Skill Development for Coaches . . . . . 130 Section 6: The Care and Nurture of Coaches . . . 131 Section 7: Factors That Help the Longevity of Coaches . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 132 Section 8: Alternative Coaching Models. . . . . . 132 Conclusion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 135 About the Publisher . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 145 Share Your Thoughts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 146 0310251796_coaching_lcsg.indd 7 2/13/06 8:30:23 AM 031020755X_relation_fm.qxp 9/8/06 2:21 PM Page 1 This page is intentionally left blank
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