Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy Wounded Spirits and Healing Paths David A. Crenshaw JASON ARONSON Lanham • Boulder • New York • Toronto • Plymouth, UK LEXINGTON BOOKS A division of Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, Inc. A wholly owned subsidiary of The Rowman & Littlefield Publishing Group, Inc. 4501 Forbes Boulevard, Suite 200 Lanham, MD 20706 Estover Road Plymouth PL6 7PY United Kingdom Copyright©2008 by Lexington Books All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without the prior permission of the publisher. British Library Cataloguing in Publication Information Available Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Crenshaw, David A. Child and adolescent psychotherapy : wounded spirits and healing paths / David A. Crenshaw. p. ; cm. Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN-13: 978-0-7657-0598-3 (hardcover : alk. paper) ISBN-10: 0-7657-0598-2 (hardcover : alk. paper) ISBN-13: 978-0-7657-0609-6 (internet e-book : alk. paper) ISBN-10: 0-7657-0609-1 (internet e-book : alk. paper) 1. Child psychotherapy. 2. Adolescent psychotherapy. I. Title. [DNLM: 1. Child. 2. Psychotherapy—methods. 3. Adolescent. 4. Psychotherapeutic Processes. 5. Stress Disorders, Traumatic—therapy. WS 350.2 C915c 2008] RJ504.C738 2008 618.92'8914—dc22 08032563 Printed in the United States of America (cid:2)™ The paper used in this publication meets the minimum requirements of American National Standard for Information Sciences—Permanence of Paper for Printed Library Materials, ANSI/NISO Z39.48–1992. DEDICATION In my clinical work and writing, I stand on the shoulders of giants in the field who have taught me and inspired me more than they can ever know. No one among those giants stands taller than James Garbarino. Currently, Professor and Maude C. Clarke Chair in Humanistic Psychology at Loyola University, and Director of the Center for the Human Rights of Children at Loyola, Garbarino is the author of more than twenty books. Referred to by Edward Zigler as one of the nation’s major social critics, his groundbreaking research and writing on children in refugee camps around the world, his study of children growing up in war zones from Cambodia, Mozambique, Kuwait, Nicaragua, and Palestine, not to mention his work with children growing up in this country in inner city war zones has influ- enced a whole generation of child development specialists, mental health professionals, politicians, and policy makers. Garbarino’s book, Lost Boys: Why Our Sons Turn Violent and How We Can Save Them is destined to be a classic in the field and makes a compelling case for viewing in a humanistic way those youth who suffer traumatic, of- ten unrecognized and untreated slashes to the soul that ultimately lead to a huge cost to society not just economically but more poignantly in pain and suffering. The imperiled youth of today’s world facing both environmental and social toxicity on a scale never seen prior are fortunate to have in their corner, a man so eloquent in prose, so compassionate of heart, so astute and insightful, and unwaveringly passionate in his advocacy for them, as James Garbarino. It is little wonder that immediately after the cease-fire in the Persian Gulf War; Garbarino was called upon to go to Kuwait by UNICEF to help the children cope with the trauma of war. James Garbarino was, prior to taking his current position, President of the Erikson Institute for Advanced Study in Child Development in Chicago and Co-Director of the Family Life Development Center and Professor of Human Development at Cornell University. Every now and then among the giants of the field emerges someone of incomparable commitment, so gifted, with a heart so big, that the field is changed forever. James Garbarino is surely one of those persons. Contents Acknowledgements ix 1 Multiple Sources of Child Wounding and Paths to Healing 1 David A. Crenshaw 2 Healing Wounds to the Spirit Camouflaged by Rage 15 Kenneth V. Hardy & David A. Crenshaw 3 Healing the Wounds of Children in a Family Context 31 Andrew Fussner & David A. Crenshaw 4 Seeking a Shelter for the Soul 49 James Garbarino & David A. Crenshaw 5 “Diamonds in the Rough”: A Strengths-Based Approach to Healing Children and Families 63 Susan Cristantiello, David A. Crenshaw, & Konstantinos Tsoubris 6 Hidden Dimensions: Unspeakable Sorrow and Buried Human Potential 79 David A. Crenshaw & James Garbarino 7 When Grief Is a Luxury Children Can’t Afford 93 David A. Crenshaw & Linda Hill 8 A Spectrum of Dynamic Forces That Silence Children 107 David A. Crenshaw & Jennifer Lee vii viii Contents 9 Therapist Healing and Use of Self 123 David A. Crenshaw 10 Tales of Heartbreak and Joy and Reflections Along the Healing Path 141 David A. Crenshaw Index 161 About the Contributors 165 Acknowledgements It is quite special when I can collaborate in a writing project with con- tributing authors for whom I hold great affection and respect. I especially wish to acknowledge the enormous influence on my career of the writings and teachings of James Garbarino and Kenneth V. Hardy. Their work has both informed and inspired my clinical work and writing. Andrew Fussner has been a good friend for eighteen years. He is an extraordinary teacher in the family therapy field and I have learned most of what I know about fam- ily therapy from him. All of the contributing authors share a passion for the work that we do and a common bond in our shared conviction that both children and families deserve nothing less than our best efforts and skills to help, in the context of a profound respect for their dignity as human beings. The contributing authors in this book also share the view that children and teens as well as their families bring important strengths into the therapy room and that appreciation of those talents, positive personal qualities, as well as their courage and determination provide the best leverage for facili- tating change. It is not the strengths and talents of the therapist but of the child and family that we seek to honor. ix
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