Change Your Life with NLP 2e: the Powerful Way to Make Your Whole Life Better

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Change Your Life
with NLP
The powerful way to make your
whole life better
2nd edition
LiNdseY AgNess
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First published in Great Britain in 2008
Second edition 2011
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Agness, Lindsey.
Change your life with NLP : the powerful way to make your whole
life better / Lindsey Agness. -- 2nd ed.
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Thank you...
To my mother who taught me the benefit of learning to focus,
work hard and achieve my dreams….
endorsements from the first edition
‘I would just like to say you really have shown me the light! I’ve been
on NLP practs and yet after reading about you and then reading your
book the lights went on! Bless you girl, if you can do that for me god
knows what you can do!!!’
Bill, London
‘I just felt compelled to drop you a note and tell you how incredibly
engaging and accurate your writing is, very wise and inspiring words
and now you’ve got me gripped. I’ve had some life-changing moments
myself over the last 18 months and am well on my way and back on
track to living my life with passion, purpose and positive intention.’
Kath, Birmingham
‘Thank you again for your time and I would just like to say that I
was so impressed not only with your wonderful book, but also the
professionalism and ability in your “therapy”. A very heartfelt
“thank you”.’
Nikki, Hampshire
‘Your book on NLP really helped me a lot in my work as an academic
… I work for a very prestigious university in the UK and as a guest
lecturer in others abroad. Indeed, I am using NLP to help my stu-
dents … not only that, I also use in my own personal life … P.S. I
have read other books on NLP, but yours was the best! Keep on!’
Alison, London
‘I have been reading your book and I am up to Chapter 5. It is
Fantastic. I love it.’
Geoff, Newcastle
‘I just felt inspired and compelled to let Lindsey know how much
I enjoyed her book … I have read soooo many lifechanging/self-help
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books and this is a really great one which I found very useful and reso-
nated with me. The difference with this one is that I not only enjoyed
it and could relate to it, but that I have started taking action straight
away. Being a procrastinator, this has been an amazing shift.’
Fiona, Bristol
‘I’m a 20-year-old Hungarian guy who is working and studying in
Aberdeen, Scotland. I’m so glad that I found your book. It changed
my life and the way I live it.’
Adam, Hungary
‘Firstly, what a great book, it has certainly been an eye opener as this
is my first encounter with NLP, all this and I haven’t even finished
it yet! I tell you, as I read this sometimes, I actually feel chills going
up and down my spine as a result of the energy generated. Loving the
book and looking forward to finishing it.’
Eyad, London
‘I would like to say thank you to Lindsey, I have just finished read-
ing her book and have not been able to put it down! From the first
page I felt enriched by your words. The concepts were not new to me,
but the honesty and clarity have delivered the content to me in a pro-
found yet subtle and energising way. I know it works; it was not by
accident that I picked up your book! I can now say that I have started
my journey towards the Brilliant Zone!’
Laura-Marie, Suffolk
‘I have just finished reading your book: Change Your Life with
NLP and wanted to say thank you. The approach you shared gives
an inspirational key for me to create a fulfilling and challenging
career. I have been fortunate to receive a fantastic education and have
enormous energy that I have been able to commit successfully to other
goals in my life. Until now however I have not had the courage, tech-
niques or discipline to apply myself to creating a career that I can
be proud of. I am going to follow the approach you lay out, starting
from today, and stick to it until I reach career goals that truly inspire
me. Thank you for revealing this exciting new future.’
Adam, London
Contents
Foreword ix
About the author x
Introduction – could your life be better? xi
The ultimate test xiv
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What can NLP do for me? 1
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Are you in the Grey Zone? 9
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What would you do if you knew you
couldn’t fail? 25
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Focus on what you want 45
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Who am I? 65
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Results or excuses? Taking responsibility for
what you really want 89
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Believe you can 103
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You have all you need to succeed 119
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Influencing with integrity 143
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Step up with feedback 169
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Get started 181
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Do you want it or what? 193
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CONTENTS
My moment of truth 206
What next? 209
Reading and films list 211
Appendix 1: My meta programmes 213
Appendix 2: The language used by different representational
systems 219
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Foreword
The first edition of this book was my own personal example of
how you can use NLP to change your life. I was 47 when I wrote
this book. It was my first. Motivated and excited at the potential
I’d already found for NLP to change lives, I set upon the ambitious
task of reaching far more people than I could ever hope to train!
The book achieved more than I dared to dream about in assist-
ing readers to pluck up the courage to take the first step
towards their dreams.
It’s not an NLP textbook in the traditional sense of the word,
nor was it ever meant to be. So, if you already know a lot about
NLP or you want a theoretical guide to NLP, this may not be the
book for you. However, if you want to gain the basics of NLP
and, most importantly, be able to apply the tools and techniques
to make a difference in your life or the lives of others, then this
book offers you a ‘how to’ guide with lots of practical exercises
explained in terms that anyone can understand and then apply.
When I was asked for a second edition, I wondered what to
add to widen the tools I could offer to you. Two new chapters
emerged. The first, called ‘Who am I?’, uses NLP tools to show
you who you are at your core. Self-awareness is the initial step
towards personal leadership as you learn about your own per-
sonality. The second is called ‘Influencing with Integrity’, which
shows you how to communicate more effectively and make
more impact with others.
Enjoy the journey…
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