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6th edition Building a Parenting Agreement That Works How to Put Your Kids First When Your Marriage Doesn’t Last By Mimi E. Lyster always up to date The law changes, but Nolo is on top of it! We offer several ways to make sure you and your Nolo products are up to date: 1 Nolo’s Legal Updater We’ll send you an email whenever a new edition of this book is published! Sign up at www.nolo.com/legalupdater. 2 Updates @ Nolo.com Check www.nolo.com/update to fi nd recent changes in the law that affect the current edition of your book. 3 Nolo Customer Service To make sure that this edition of the book is the most recent one, call us at 800-728-3555 and ask one of our friendly customer service representatives. Or fi nd out at www.nolo.com. please note We believe accurate, plain-English legal information should help you solve many of your own legal problems. But this text is not a substitute for personalized advice from a knowledgeable lawyer. If you want the help of a trained professional—and we’ll always point out situations in which we think that’s a good idea—consult an attorney licensed to practice in your state. 6th edition Building a Parenting Agreement That Works How to Put Your Kids First When Your Marriage Doesn’t Last By Mimi E. Lyster Sixth Edition SEptEmbEr 2007 Editor Emily doSkow book & Cover design SuSan putnEy proofreader paul tylEr index miChaEl fErrEira printing ConSolidatEd printErS, inC. lyster, mimi E. building a parenting agreement that works: how to put your kids first when your marriage doesn’t last / by mimi E. lyster -- 6th ed. p. cm. includes index. iSbn-13: 978-1-4133-0722-1 (pbk.) iSbn-10: 1-4133-0722-1 1. 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Dedication to the children who liven up my life and fill our home with joy, katelyn, ben, alysha, and nichelle. and to my husband, Steve, whose love and support has carried me so far. Acknowledgments i continue to owe thanks to: • Kevin Elkus, John Helie, and Steve Elias for helping me cling to the notion that our virtual team will yet pull a rabbit from some hat • the editing department at Nolo for helping to bring this edition into being, and • my mediation mentors, peers, and clients for helping me to learn with increasing clar- ity the power of facilitated dialogue decision making. i would also like to thank those that i have come to know and work with in California’s court system for their significant contributions to my understanding of this work and the evolving context within which families are helped to find satisfying and child-focused solu- tions to their parenting disputes. Table of Contents I Introduction Make Your Own Custody Decisions If Possible ..........................................................2 What If We Need Outside Help? ........................................................................................3 Balancing Parenting and Financial Issues.......................................................................3 Why This Book Is Unique .......................................................................................................4 A Word to Skeptics ....................................................................................................................5 What If You Just Want to Fight? .........................................................................................6 Part I: Getting Started 1 Taking Stock of Your Situation You Are Not Alone .................................................................................................................12 Keep Your Parenting Plan Focused on Your Children .........................................12 It Gets Easier Over Time ......................................................................................................13 Learn How to Negotiate ......................................................................................................15 If the Other Parent Is Absent ............................................................................................16 If There Is Violence or Abuse in the Family ...............................................................16 2 An Introduction to Parenting Agreements What Parenting Agreements Cover ..............................................................................20 Advantages of Parent-Negotiated Agreements ......................................................20 Goals of a Successful Parenting Agreement ..............................................................21 Parenting Agreements and Custody .............................................................................23 3 Getting Organized Organize and Review Documents ..................................................................................26 Completing the Worksheets .............................................................................................27 Sample Worksheets ................................................................................................................29
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