Breakthrough Communication: A Powerful 4-Step Process for Overcoming Resistance and Getting Results

272 Pages·2013·2.255 MB·English

by  Harrison Monarth

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Three essential guides from globally renowned
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Praise for Breakthrough Communication
Harrison Monarth, one of today’s premier executive coaches,
shows us how to use our own past successes to achieve new
levels of meaningful achievement in his book Breakthrough
Communication. Not since Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends
and Influence People has there been such a valuable road map for
bringing high-impact results.
Marshall Goldsmith, 2 million-selling author
of the New York Times bestsellers MOJO and
What Got You Here Won’t Get You There
A practical and insightful translation of cutting-edge psychologi-
cal science research.
Laura Kray, PhD, Warren E. and Carol Spieker
Professor of Leadership,
University of California, Berkeley,
Haas School of Business
If you want to be seen as the go-to person in your field,
Breakthrough Communication is the book to take you there.
Destined to become a classic, Breakthrough Communication tells
the truth about achieving status in and dominating your niche. If
you can handle the truth, this book will change your life.
Kevin Hogan, PsyD, author of The Science of Influence
This book is a true breakthrough itself. If you want to learn to
communicate better, you must read this book! 
Dave Kerpen, New York Times bestselling author of
Likeable Social Media and Likeable Leadership
Breaking through to other people and getting results with com-
munication is what inspirational leadership is all about. Harrison
Monarth shows how the process works in a thought-provoking
series of steps that anyone can learn and practice. Breakthrough
Communication is a smart and entertaining read for anyone who
wants to be successful with people.
Debra Benton, President, Benton Management Resources,
Inc., and author of The CEO Difference: How to Climb,
Crawl, and Leap Your Way to the Next Level of Your Career
A compelling how-to for anyone who aspires to become a thought
leader. The process begins with communication and some very
essential skills.
Kitty Pilgrim, journalist, author of The Stolen Chalice
Monarth demonstrates his main points, right in his writing!
Riveting information on how to get noticed, get your point across,
and avoid strategic blunders. Great stories and well-researched, as
usual.
Shelle Rose Charvet, author of the international
bestseller Words That Change Minds
My concern regarding books on communication and persuasion
is that they have always been short on what they promise: inform-
ing the reader how exactly to communicate persuasively. Harrison
Monarth’s readable (another missing component of most such
works) book does precisely that and is an—perhaps the—invalu-
able treatise on the art of successful influencing in the business
environment and beyond to get specific, identifiable results.
Richard E. Vatz, PhD, Towson Distinguished Professor;
author, The Only Authentic Book of Persuasion;
psychology editor, USA Today; editor, Current Psychology;
professor, ILPD; University Senate; Towson University
Break through
CommuniCation
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B r e a k t h r o u g h
CommuniCation
a powerful 4-step process for
overcoming resistance and
getting results
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To my darling Mom,
Roswitha Krems
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