Boiling Point: The High Cost of Unhealthy Anger to Individuals and Society

486 Pages·1999·1.53 MB·English

by  Jane Middelton-Moz

Boiling Point : The High Cost of Unhealthy
title:
Anger to Individuals and Society
author: Middelton-Moz, Jane.
publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
isbn10 | asin:
print isbn13: 9781558746671
ebook isbn13: 9780585104560
language: English
Anger, Anger--Social aspects, Violence--
subject Psychological aspects, Aggressiveness
(Psychology)
publication date: 1999
lcc: BF575.A5M5 1999eb
ddc: 152.4/7
Anger, Anger--Social aspects, Violence--
subject: Psychological aspects, Aggressiveness
(Psychology)
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Boiling Point
The High Cost of Unhealthy Anger to Individuals and
Society
Jane Middelton-Moz
Health Communications, Inc.
Deerfield Beach, Florida
www.hci-online.com
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A percentage of the author's royalties will be donated to the
Confederated Tribes of the Colville Reservation for their new Family
Preservation Program. The donation will help provide in-home service
to assist in supporting and strengthening families.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Middelton-Moz, Jane
Boiling Point: the high cost of unhealthy anger to individuals and
society/Jane Middelton-Moz.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 1-55874-668-4 (trade paper)
1. Anger. 2. AngerSocial aspects. 3. ViolencePsychological aspects.
4. Aggressiveness (Psychology) I. Title
BF575.A5M5 1999
152.4'7dc21 98-52014
CIP
© 1999 Jane Middelton-Moz
ISBN 1-55874-668-4
All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. No part
of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or
transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical,
photocopying, recording or otherwise, without the written permission
of the publisher.
Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
3201 S.W. 15th Street
Deerfield Beach, FL 33442-8190
Cover illustrations by Lisa Camp

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This book is dedicated
to the memory of
Dr. Rudolph I. Moz
and to our family and community
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Contents
Acknowledgments ix
Introduction: Living in Emotional Balance 1
1. "I'm Not Angry, but I'm Sick" 21
2. "I'm Not Angry, but I'll Get You Back While I Smile" 43
3. "I'm Not Angry, but I Whine and Complain and Yes, 63
Indeed, I Blame"
4. "I'm Not Angry, but I'm Depressed" 83
5. "I'm Not Angry, but I Sure Will Talk Bad About You" 115
6. "I'm Not Angry, but Get Out of My Way on the 135
Highway"
7. "I'm Not Angry, but I'm Always Right" 151
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8. "I'm Not Angry, but I'm Going to Show You Who's 173
Boss"
9. "I'm Not Angry, but I've Got a Lot of Killing to Do" 209
10. Hearing from Our Children 231
11. Achieving Emotional Balance, Healthy Values and 245
Strong Communities
Appendix: Medications for Effective Treatment of 269
Depression
Works Cited 275
Index 285
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Acknowledgments
I would like to acknowledge the tremendous support of many
individuals during the writing of Boiling Point. This book would not
have been possible without the time, energy, clinical gifts, heart gifts
and generous support of these individuals.
My family: Shawn, Jason, Forrest, Damien and Lisa Middelton;
Melinda Moz; Suzy Goodleaf, Diane Labelle and Jamie and Sage
Goodleaf Labelle; Ryan and Christopher Flannery; Amy Hinchcliffe;
and Alex and Edward Ward for their caring, support, insights and
humor, and for just being the people they are.
To Rod Jeffries and Harold and Joy Belmont who stood with Rudy
and me throughout Rudy's illness and through the full cycle of seasons
following Rudy's death; thank you for your love, strength and prayers.
A special thanks to many members of our community and extended
family during one of the most difficult few weeks of my life. Thank
you for standing beside our family and holding us up: Ellen Gabriel;
Denise David; Della Hill; Vera Manuel; Judalon, Luke, Sam, Jean and
John Jeffries; Diane and Bill Laut; Wanda
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Gabriel and Paul Ferland; Melissa, Pamela, Katherine and Bernard
Gabriel-Ferland; Elaine Lussier; Jimmy, Robin, Jansen and Kyra
Nicholas; Christina and Stan Grof; "G." Johnson; Marchetta
Davidson; Ann Thompson; Enid LaGesse; Jeff Middelton and Pat
Hamerle; Joyce and Willie Nelson; Gina Delmastro, Alex Smith and
Angelina Delmastro-Smith; Albert Andrews-Redstar; Veronica
Redstar; Kit Wilson; Mary Hansen; Wendy and Kurt Pierson; Frances
Brisbane; Lisa Thomas; Anna Latimer; Mary Lee and Denny
Zawadski; Mark Adair; David Page; Robert and Sue Barasch; Jonah
Meacham; and Mary and Ken Carter.
To Georgine Dellisanti; Jo Ann Chapola; M. MacKay-Brook, Susan
Perry, Lee Ann Decker; Rosalyn Rourke, Nancy Broaders, Janyce
Vick, for their love, laughter, support and helpful review.
My office manager, Diane Laut, for her competence, caring, laughter
and personal support. Behind every successful woman is a successful
woman and that's Diane.
A special thank you to Jason Middelton and Ellen Gabriel for their
creativity and talent in creating many of the illustrations in Boiling
Point.
I would like to thank Ruth Crose, Regina Delmastro, Mary Lee
Zawadski; Matthew McKay, Peter Rogers, and Judith McKay;
Redford Williams and Virginia Williams, for their understanding of
physiology that allowed me to create the narrative and cartoons in
chapter 1, and Marilyn White and Pat Murtagh for their helpful
conversation about communities.
A heartfelt thank you to the third-and fourth-grade class at Rumney
School, Angelina Delmastro-Smith, Noel Bishop; Steve Hatcher;
Wendy Pierson; Melissa, Bernard and Pamela