Biblical Counseling Manual.pdf - Online Christian Library

389 Pages·2005·1.33 MB·English

by  Sam Galloza

Biblical Counseling Manual

Adam Pulaski
Copyright © 2004 Adam Pulaski, Steve Lihn

Dedication
This book is dedicated to Ruth and Amy.
Table of Contents
Foreword
How to View and Use This Manual
I. Overview
1. Counseling Objectives
1.1. Introduction
1.2. Preconditions in Biblical Counseling
1.3. Foundations of Biblical Counseling/Discipleship
1.4. Essential Considerations
1.5. Summary
2. Biblical Psychology: Approach to Problems
2.1. Diagnosis
2.2. Approach to Solutions
3. Counseling Process
3.1. Problem Area
3.2. Solution
3.3. Counseling Tools
II.a. Basic Study: Orientation To Biblical Counseling
4. Orientation To Biblical Counseling Mini Series
4.1. God's Way vs Man's Way
4.2. Prerequisites to Biblical Change
4.3. Why There is Hope
4.4. Effecting Biblical Change
4.5. Dealing with Self
4.6. Anger and Bitterness
4.7. Depression
4.8. Fear and Worry
5. Healing The Soul Series
5.1. Healing Presence
5.2. Transforming the Natural Self
5.3. What Makes a Man a Man
5.4. Needs of Man
5.5. Healing of the Soul
5.6. Mind and Will
5.7. Meditation Process
5.8. Steps to a Liberated Will
5.9. Healing Prayer for the Mind
5.10. Perfectionism
5.11. Schizophrenia (Double-Mindedness)
5.12. Transpersonal Psychology
5.13. Healed from Fear
5.14. Rejections
5.15. Attitude and Behavior
II.b. Basic Study: Biblical Discipleship
6. Christian Growth Series, Part A
6.1. Establish a Foundation for Biblical Discipleship
6.2. Explore Problems and Develop Sensitivity to Sin
6.3. Establish Biblical Structure for Change
6.4. Develop the Practice of Righteousness
6.5. Establish Pattern of the Mature Disciple
7. Christian Growth Series, Part B
7.1. Characteristics of a Christian
7.2. Change is a Two-Factored Process
7.3. Turning from Evil
7.4. Physical Challenges
7.5. Commitment is Doing the Word
7.6. Lifestyle Change is Evidence of New Birth
7.7. Worried, Confused, Troubled
7.8. The Pure Self Activated
7.9. Holding Self Accountable
7.10. Only God Can Change Us And Others
7.11. Judging Yourself
7.12. True Dying
7.13. True Patience
7.14. Mind Control
8. Soul Dynamics Series, Part A
8.1. Living Soul
8.2. Sins of the Flesh/Self of the Flesh
8.3. Dividing of Spirit and Soul
8.4. Union with Christ
9. Soul Dynamics Series, Part B
9.1. Cleansing and Purifying the Soul
9.2. Sin, Self, Suffering
9.3. The Spirituality of Abundance
10. Fruit of The Spirit Series
10.1. Love
10.2. Joy
10.3. Peace
10.4. Longsuffering
10.5. Kindness/Goodness
10.6. Faithfulness
10.7. Meekness/Gentleness
10.8. Self-Control
11. Supernatural Life Series
11.1. Mind
11.2. Abiding
11.3. Virtue of Love
11.4. Will of God
11.5. That Which is Perfect
11.6. Listening to God
11.7. Center of the Soul
11.8. Inordinate Desires
11.9. Union with God
11.10. Dreams/Visions
II.c. Basic Study: Strengthening Your Marriage
12. Strengthening Your Marriage Series
12.1. Marriage - God's Plan to Establish His Kingdom on Earth
12.2. Principle of Authority
12.3. Submission - Act of Bringing Forth Wholeness
12.4. The Husband's Role in Submitting
12.5. The Bride's Privilege
12.6. One Flesh Marriage
12.7. Parent/Child Relationships
12.8. Children Submitting to Parents
12.9. God's Standard
12.10. Upbringing Goals for Children (and Adults)
12.11. Maintaining Good Marital Communications
12.12. Maximum Husband and Father
12.13. Fulfilled and Fulfilling Wife and Mother
12.14. Tough Love
12.15. Marriage Partnership
III.a. Life Study: Guilt And Shame
13. Self-Acceptance Series
13.1. Self Hatred
13.2. Self-Acceptance
13.3. Healing of Memories: Forgiveness of Sin
13.4. Bind, Loose, Cast-out
13.5. Barriers to Wholeness - Failure to Receive Forgiveness
13.6. Healing Presence
13.7. Healing Presence (2)
13.8. Creative Thinking
13.9. Mental Obsessions
13.10. Breaking Physical Habits
14. Overcoming Lust Series
14.1. Assaults Against the Soul
14.2. Lusts, Desires - Inordinate
14.3. Feelings/Faith
14.4. Bondages
14.5. Purpose vs. Need
14.6. Purpose or Need
14.7. Eating Disorders
14.8. Covenant Foundations
14.9. God's Motivational Plan
14.10. Out of Control
14.11. Sexually Abused
14.12. Sexual Abuse 2
14.13. Life-Dominating Sins
III.b. Life Study: Anger And Bitterness
15. Bold Love Series
15.1. Forgiving Love
15.2. Vicious Thoughts
15.3. Reconciliation
15.4. Conquering Evil
15.5. Doing Good to Your Enemies
15.6. Loving a Fool
16. Armor Of God Series
16.1. Injustices
16.2. Revoking Revenge
16.3. Responding to Difficult People
16.4. Assaults of Shame, Rage, Hatred
16.5. Forgiving Enemies
III.c. Life Study: Fear
17. Freedom From Fear Series
17.1. Origins of Fear
17.2. Presence of Fear or Faith
17.3. Learning Truth Talk
17.4. Applying the Truth
17.5. Out of Control (World of Non-Existence)
A. Forms And Worksheets
A.1. Bible Study And Application Format
A.2. Think And Do List
A.3. Love Is An Action
A.4. Victory Over Sin Worksheet
A.5. Dying To Self
A.6. Problem Solving Worksheet
A.7. Problem/Solution Worksheet
A.8. Freedom From Anxiety
A.9. Contingency Plan
A.10. Change Is a Two-Factored Process
A.11. Scheduling Worksheet
A.12. Anchor Posts
B. Bible Resources
B.1. Bible Memory Verses
C. Internet Resources
C.1. Internet Links
Bibliography
Index
List of Tables
A.1. BSAF - Instruction
A.2. BSAF - Example I
A.3. BSAF - Example II
A.4. BSAF - Blank Form
A.5. Think and Do List
A.6. VOSWS - Instruction
A.7. VOSWS - Example
A.8. VOSWS - Blank Form
A.9. Problem Solving Worksheet
A.10. Problem/Solution Worksheet I, Part A: Analysis
A.11. Problem/Solution Worksheet I, Part B: Plans
A.12. Problem/Solution Worksheet II, Part A: Handout
A.13. Problem/Solution Worksheet II, Part B: Homework
A.14. Final Session Review
A.15. Freedom From Anxiety Worksheet
A.16. Scripture For Put-off/Put-on
A.17. Put-off/Put-on Worksheet
A.18. Scheduling Worksheet
A.19. Anchor Posts
Foreword
In 1978, I began seeking biblical resources to help work out some personal problems.
This I found in a Christian bookstore where I picked up a book titled "Competent to
Counsel" by Jay E. Adams, which opened my eyes to the possibility that I could with
confidence counsel myself as well as help others. This led me in June of 1979 to the
Biblical Counseling Foundation located then in Arlington, Virginia, where I spent three
plus years training as a Biblical Counselor.
My training continued as I began teaching a biblical counseling course to various groups
in 1980 through 1984. From 1984 until the present (2004) I continue in the capacity of
teaching and counseling at a local church in Silver Spring, Maryland.
During this period of time, I was led to counsel in numerous and varied problem areas.
From experiences gained, I accumulated a repository of handouts and worksheets to
facilitate and keep the counseling session biblical, to maintain a focus on God’s word, and
to provide resource material to assist disciples to counsel themselves.
This is what appealed to Steve. After attending my 22-week course in 1996, Steve Lihn,
who was in the final stages of obtaining his doctorate degree from University of Maryland,
suggested that this program should be put on the internet. We used the acronym "BCOL"
for this undertaking, which stands for Biblical Counseling On-Line. It took the summer of
1997 through 1998 to accomplish this feat. This cyberspace ministry proved to be very
beneficial to the global body of Christ. It has recorded thousands upon thousands of hits
and many requests for information from all over the world.
This prompted us to transform the online materials into a book form, available both
electronically and in paper print, so that the greater christian community can benefit.
Since the winter of 2002, Steve and I worked together to accomplish this conversion.
We trust that our findings will provide the insights and the tools necessary to help one
effectively and succesfully become an overcomer in this battle zone called life.
Many are tossed about by the winds of the world’s philosophies and arguments. But our
battle is to be led by the Holy Spirit in applying God’s wisdom and truth to the challenges
of life. The Bible provides all the instruction that one needs on how to live this victorious
life in the midst of obstacles, of temptations, of trials and varied difficulties ( Rom. 8:4-9
). Thus, anyone born of the will of God, who has received Christ as Lord and Savior, is
equipped and qualified to engage in this battle of wisdom ( 2 Tim. 3:16-17 ).
Our Lord directs us in Matthew 28:18-20 to make disciples: to baptize them in the
name of the Father, of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, and to teach them to observe and
live by God’s commandments. This is the responsibility of the body of Christ who are to
be equipped to accomplish this mission. 1 Cor. 1:30 ; 1 Cor. 3:16 ; Rom. 15:14 ; Gal.
6:1-5 ; Eph. 1:17-23 and Col. 1:10-12 confirm that wisdom resides within us, that we
are to grow in this wisdom, and to inform, instruct and restore others to the light of His
word.
Accordingly, the purpose of this manual is to provide a basic approach, and the tools to
establish a foundation to assist one to deal progressively with his own problems from a
biblical perspective. And then to teach and counsel others to live by God’s
commandments; thereby, fulfilling our Lord’s directive to make disciples of all nations (
Matt. 7:5 ; Matt. 22:36-40 ).
Adam Pulaski. March, 2004.
Overview
Overview of biblical counseling principle and methodology.
Table of Contents
1. Counseling Objectives
1.1. Introduction
1.2. Preconditions in Biblical Counseling
1.3. Foundations of Biblical Counseling/Discipleship
1.4. Essential Considerations
1.5. Summary
2. Biblical Psychology: Approach to Problems
2.1. Diagnosis
2.2. Approach to Solutions
3. Counseling Process
3.1. Problem Area
3.2. Solution
3.3. Counseling Tools
Chapter 1. Counseling Objectives
Table of Contents
1.1. Introduction
1.2. Preconditions in Biblical Counseling
1.3. Foundations of Biblical Counseling/Discipleship
1.4. Essential Considerations
1.5. Summary
1.1. Introduction
This manual is designed to teach you to approach circumstances, relationships, and
situations of life from a biblical perspective and to experience victory and contentment in
all of life's trials, testings and problems.
The essence of who we are is made of events and how we responded to those events. We
are the sum of what we encountered in life and our reactions to those experiences.
Memory , the recalling of the past, is our spirit gazing at the substance of our soul
which, at times, directs our life rather than the word of God. Thus, most of our problems
are due to ignorance on how to biblically respond to life, and to use life's adversities to
our advantage as opportunities to grow and mature in Christ ( Rom. 8:28-29 ).
These spiritual resources are available to those who are born by the will of God. Having
accepted Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord, the believer is enabled by Holy Spirit to face
life, to counter adversities, to grow in grace and strength, and to live in peace and joy (
John 1:12 ; John 3:16 ).
The issue is the self , the soul of man. The self created by God, belongs to God. The self,
tempted to be god without God, became enslaved by Satan ( Gen. 1:26-27 ; Gen. 2:7 ;
Gen. 3:1-6 ).
The living soul is what we will deal with...
• to set it free
• to again be completely dependent upon God
• to follow Him and to glorify Him.
Phil. 2:12-13 ; 2 Pet. 1:3-11 tell us to work out our salvation daily being conformed to
the image of Christ. The key is daily , being God-conscious twenty-four hours a day.
Either we are thinking God's thoughts or we defer to lower level thinking. There is no
gray area. You are either for God or you are against Him ( Matt. 12:30 ).