Beyond Willpower: The Secret Principle to Achieving Success in Life, Love, and Happiness

238 Pages·2016·1.53 MB·English

Beyond Willpower teaches you certain spiritual and mental techniques,
including hand positions, guided meditations, and affirmations, to
support achieving abundance in your life. The program is not financial
advice or financial education, nor does Dr. Alexander Loyd provide
recommendations for specific financial decisions.
Copyright © 2015 by Alex Loyd, Ph.D., N.D.
All rights reserved.
Published in the United States by Harmony Books, an imprint of the Crown Publishing Group, a
division of Random House LLC, a Penguin Random House Company, New York.
www.crownpublishing.com
Harmony Books is a registered trademark, and the Circle colophon is a trademark of Random
House LLC.
Grateful acknowledgment is made to The Dallas Morning News for permission to reprint an
excerpt from “A Cell Forgets” by Sue Goetinck Ambrose (The Dallas Morning News, Oct. 20,
2004). Reprinted by permission of The Dallas Morning News.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is available upon request.
ISBN 978-1-101-90281-3
eBook ISBN 978-1-10190282-0
Jacket design by Jess Morphew
Jacket photographs: (background) Malija/Shutterstock; (heart) B. Melo/Shutterstock
v3.1
To Hope!
Most of the beautiful things in my life have
bloomed through you, including the information
in this book. What began with so much pain and
heartache has now transformed my life into “hope
fulfilled,” and beyond. If anyone benefits from
these pages, it would never have happened
without you. Thank you for putting up with me. I
know that’s a full-time job.
I LOVE YOU!
CONTENTS
Cover
Title Page
Copyright
Dedication
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
INTRODUCTION Life Beyond Willpower
PART I THE FOUNDATIONS OF THE GREATEST PRINCIPLE
CHAPTER 1 Determining Your Ultimate Success Goal
CHAPTER 2 Cellular Memory
CHAPTER 3 The Spiritual Physics of Truth and Love
PART II HOW THE GREATEST PRINCIPLE WORKS
CHAPTER 4 Three Tools to Deprogram and Reprogram Your Human Hard
Drive and Its Software
CHAPTER 5 Set Success Goals, Not Stress Goals
PART III PUTTING THE GREATEST PRINCIPLE INTO ACTION
CHAPTER 6 Basic Diagnostics: Identify and Heal the Source of Your Success
Issues
CHAPTER 7 The Greatest Principle Success Blueprint
CONCLUSION Love Truly
EPILOGUE Practical Spirituality
FURTHER RESOURCES
NOTES
About the Author
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
A special thank you to Kathleen Hagerty—you helped me get this from
my head and heart to the page and made it a BLAST! To Amanda Rooker
—you took a very rough manuscript and created sense out of it; I
couldn’t have done this without you. To Harry, Hope, and George—
thanks for putting up with all the note-taking and writing at weird times,
and loving me through it all. To my agent, Bonnie Solow—all I can say is
that you saved this book, and I will be forever grateful. You are the best!
To Diana Baroni and the Random House team—thank you for all your
wonderful work, and for giving me a vibrant, warm, and caring home.
And to God, for giving me something to write about—I am yours!
introduction
LIFE
beyond
WILLPOWER
This book is about living life beyond.
Beyond willpower.
Beyond the ordinary.
Beyond your fears.
Beyond your circumstances.
Beyond your hopes and dreams.
Growing up, I always believed it was possible to live a life beyond. But
only when I lost everything that mattered most to me did I find a way to
actually do it.
Although the principles you’ll learn in Beyond Willpower are ancient,
the cutting-edge science that confirms these principles is brand new—as
is the mechanical, step-by-step process you’ll learn that will enable you
not only to choose the life beyond, but to live it from now on.
It’s taken me twenty-five years to discover and hone this process, but I
believe that’s exactly what I’m offering you.
I call it the Greatest Principle in the World That Almost Nobody
Knows.
Before we go any further, I’d like to ask you a question: What is your
biggest problem or unrealized potential? What are you searching for?
What is the number one thing in your life that needs to be pulled out of
the pit, kicked off the couch, or have a magic wand waved over it? I
would ask you not to read any further until you have at least one thing
in mind from your life that needs fixing—even if you’ve tried everything
to fix it and nothing has ever worked. One thing that needs to be rescued
from failure or mediocrity to roaring success.
I believe the Greatest Principle is that magic wand you need. I know
this claim sounds presumptuous, but I’m only saying it because I have
watched it happen virtually 100 percent of the time with my private
clients over the last twenty-five years. I believe you can apply the
process outlined in this book to any aspect of your life and see it
transform from a caterpillar to a butterfly.
Let me guess what’s going through your mind right now: you’re
thinking, I’ve heard that before. In fact, you’ve heard it a hundred times,
and for some of you, you’ve heard it so many times that you can’t even
believe that what I’m telling you is possible. Yeah right, another magic
bullet that cons me out of twenty-five bucks and leaves me right back where I
started. If that’s what went through your head, I get it. I’ve been there
myself. But I need to let you in on a secret about the success/self-help
industry: it has a 97 percent failure rate.
THE 97 PERCENT SELF-HELP FAILURE RATE
Most of us have read or have figured out on our own that the vast
majority of success and self-help programs fail. If they worked, we
wouldn’t keep looking for a new one every year, would we? And this so-
called industry (worth $10 billion annually in the United States alone)1
would dry up, because if there were one program that really worked for
everyone, we’d all be living happy, healthy, and fulfilled lives. For
example, one of the top-selling nonfiction categories of books is weight
loss. Now, who do you think buys the weight-loss books this year?
Answer: The same people who bought them last year—because last
year’s books didn’t work! But the secret isn’t that most success and self-
help programs fail—it’s that the success industry experts already know this.
And the failure rate is far worse than we thought.
According to industry insiders, the failure rate in the success industry
(which includes books, lectures, workshops, programs, and more) is
approximately 97 percent. Yes, you read that right—97 percent. My
colleague and friend Ken Johnston ran the largest personal development
seminar company in North America and has openly lectured for years
about what most industry insiders will only whisper behind locked
doors: that the average success rate is about 3 percent. From that
successful 3 percent, they get enough testimonials for their marketing to
portray a success machine that works for anyone and everyone. But
according to their own experience, that isn’t so.
What’s even more interesting is that the vast majority of these
programs follow the same basic blueprint:
1. Focus on what you want.
2. Figure out a plan to get there.
3. Put the plan into action.
That’s it. Pick your program, book, doctor, or mentor, and chances are
he or she will teach some version of that template. In fact, you can trace
it back to the seminal self-help book Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon
Hill, published in 1937, and it’s been popularized by other books and
programs for at least the past sixty-five years. Focus on the result you
want, make a plan, and use your willpower to put that plan into action.
The formula makes sense, right? Of course it makes sense. It’s what
we’ve heard all our lives. Problem is, it won’t work. According to the
latest research out of Harvard and Stanford, which we’ll cover in detail
in chapter 1, this paradigm is not only ineffective, but for 97 percent of
us it is a veritable blueprint for failure.
Why? The typical three-step self-help blueprint—determine what you
want, make a plan, and work that plan until you achieve what you want
—relies on two components: expecting an external end result (steps 1
and 2), and relying on the tool of willpower (step 3). As we’ll learn in
chapter 1, expectations inherently cause chronic stress until the end
result is achieved or not—and medical science has proven repeatedly
that stress is the clinical source of virtually every problem we can have
in life and essentially guarantees failure. Depending on willpower (step
3) also virtually guarantees failure, because willpower depends on the
power of the conscious mind. As we’ll also discover in chapter 1, our
subconscious and unconscious attitudes are literally a million times
stronger than our conscious mind, so if our subconscious and
unconscious directly oppose our conscious willpower for any reason, our
conscious mind will lose every time. Furthermore, trying to “force” a