Banish Your Inner Critic: Silence the Voice of Self-Doubt to Unleash Your Creativity and Do Your Best Work

2017·2.71 MB·English

by  Denise Jacobs

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Banish Your Inner Critic: Silence the Voice of Self-Doubt to Unleash Your
Creativity and Do Your Best Work
Library of Congress Cataloging
ISBN: (paperback) 978-1-63353-471-1, (ebook) 978-1-63353-472-8
Library of Congress Control Number: 2017906492
BISAC category code SEL009000 SELF-HELP / Creativity
Printed in the United States of America
DEDICATION
For my sister Diane and my mother Deloria.
May they both continue to see, own, and fully stand
in the power of their phenomenal creative selves.
“Every creative person I know, from designers to CEOs, suffers from
the inner voice that tells us we’re not good enough, we’re not special
enough, and darn it, nobody likes us. While a little humility is a good
thing, too much self-doubt can keep you from achieving what you were
put on earth to accomplish. Being your best, authentic self is the only
way to fulfill your dreams and leave the world better than you found
it. Denise Jacobs can guide you away from your self-imposed naysayers
and set you on the path to achieving the serene self-confidence you
deserve. Nobody charts this terrain better than she does.”
- Jeffrey Zeldman, studio.zeldman & An Event Apart
“We are our own worst enemy and harshest critic when it comes to
expressing ourselves. Fear holds us back from reaching our potential
and gaining the recognition we deserve. That is why I am so excited
about Denise’s book. Banish Your Inner Critic is the book I have been
waiting for. A book I believe will inspire a new generation to step out
of the shadows and shine.”
- Paul Boag, author of User Experience Revolution
“Creativity will be the universal skill of the future in both business
and in life. Banishing your inner critic is an ability everyone will
need to work on. Denise is a creativity coach, who goes deep into the
reasons why we commonly think we are not creative. She then gives
us real solutions for how to overcome those hurdles, and bring out the
inner creative inside of us. If you are looking to rekindle your creative
instinct, have I got the book for you!”
- Jason Cranford Teague, Futurist Author & Speaker
“Banish Your Inner Critic: Great book! Easy to read and fun to use.
Denise Jacobs has done a wonderful job of taking the complexity
of self, and creating a system for each of us to access our creativity
and release our creative power. Denise breaks down the inner critic
into types and guides each reader through the process to access her
distinctive creative self. Banish Your Inner Critic provides knowledge,
insight, tools and practice for getting unstuck and expressing full
creative potential. Plus, reading Denise’s book is like spending time
with her, and she’s an inspiring delight.”
- Rebecca Stockley, Co-Founder of BATS Improv in San Francisco CA,
www.improvlady.com
“Denise brings a practical approach to silencing the voice in your head
determined to undermine your ability to work. Banish Your Inner
Critic is a manual for finding the destination, direction, and drive to
succeed at life. As a remote worker I frequently find myself with self-
doubt and rampant imposter syndrome. I now have the tools to purge
those blockers from my mind and be the creative person I know I am.”
- Aaron Douglas, Mobile Software Lead, Automattic (& WordPress.com)
“Banish Your Inner Critic is a must-read for everyone who has ever had
self-doubt. As I read Denise’s book, my head nodded in agreement and
heralded a whole heap of ‘ah-ha’ moments for me. This is Denise at her
creative best. I encourage you, Dear Reader, to go deep to banish your
inner critic!”
- Kylie Hunt, Workplace, Productivity & Happiness Specialist
“With creativity comes periods of self-judgment that cause anxiety or
paralysis. For designers, there is always this critical voice inside that
questions what we are doing from time to time. However, whether
you are a creative professional or not, everyone has the potential to be
creative. In this book, Denise Jacobs empowers readers to silence their
inner critic and unlock their potential to be their best creative self.”
- Andy Vitale, UX Design Principal, 3M Health Care
“There is an Inner Critic in all of us and it may be the thing that is
stopping us from reaching our full creative potential. In this delightful
book, Denise openly shares her own struggles with self-criticism,
making us feel like we aren’t alone. She gives us permission to own it,
the tools to get unblocked, and get on the path to a more creative self.”
- Jessie Shternshus, Founder of The Improv Effect and Author of Ctrl
Shift: 50 Games For 50 ****ing Days Like Today
“It’s harder than ever to turn down the voices and channels vying
for your attention; even when you do, you may find your own inner
critic ready to thwart your creative efforts. But Denise Jacobs offers
compassionate and practical guidance for overcoming those doubts,
channeling your focus, and getting down to creating.”
— Kate O’Neill, founder of KO Insights and author of “Pixels and Place:
Connecting Human Experience Across Physical and Digital Spaces”
“The high tech world has created an epidemic of impostor syndrome.
People doubt themselves. You can disagree when others doubt you,
but when you doubt yourself, who’s going to defend you? Take your
power back! In this book, author Denise Jacobs gives you the practical
tools you need to own the room by owning your self. Banish that inner
devil’s advocate and become as powerful as you can be.”
- Alan Cooper, Software Alchemist, co-founder of Cooper, and Author
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Introduction 17
Are You Doing Your Best Work? 17
Triumphing Over My Own Inner Critic 19
It’s Time for You to Triumph Too 24
How to Use This Book 26
The Content 26
Exercises: Creative Doses 27
Creative Dose Structure 28
Online Companions 29
Guidelines for Success 30
Choose Your Path 30
Write It Out 30
Dude, Where’s the Writing Space? 31
Give Yourself Time to Process 31
Read and Revisit 32
The Origin of the Inner Thoughts 32
Disclaimers 33
Chapter 1 | Why Banish the Inner Critic? 35
Our Intrinsic Creativity 36
Your Brain on Creativity 38
Creativity, Interrupted 40
Meet the Inner Critic 41
Creativity vs. The Inner Critic 43
Reclaiming Creativity 45
Chapter 2 | Take Back Your Creative Power 49
To Reclaim, We Must Rebuild 52
Recognize the Power of Thinking Differently 54
Take Advantage of the Brain’s Plasticity 54
Rehabilitate Your Thoughts 56
Build A Whole New Mind Frame 58
Give Yourself a Creative Dose 60
Become Full of Mind 63
CREATIVE DOSE: Mindful Thought Acceptance 65
Awaken Your Compassionate Self 68
Creative Dose: Self-Esteem vs. Self-Indulgence vs. Self-
Compassion 71
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Creative Dose: The Voice of Support 72
Glean Your Inner Critic Afflictions 75
Recognize Your Inner Critical Voice 76
Creative Dose: The Critical Voices in Your Head 77
Give It A Name 78
Creative Dose: Identify It and Name It 79
Learn the Guises of the Inner Critic 81
Creative Dose: The Many Faces of The Inner Critic 82
Know Thy Inner Critic 83
Creative Dose: Identify Your Inner Critic Achilles’ Heel 84
It All Begins With the First Step 88
Chapter 3 | “People Will Think My Work Is Dumb” - Judgment Dread 91
Are They Judging Me? They’re Judging Me, Aren’t They? 94
Dreading Judgment 95
Understand the Need to Belong 97
Know Negativity Bias and the Nature of Fear 99
Creative Dose: F.E.A.R. 101
Reconcile the Fear of Rejection 103
Creative Dose: A Face of Approval 106
See Reality More Clearly 108
Recognize Cognitive Distortions 109
Know Your Cognitive Distortions 110
Creative Dose: Surprise Journal 113
Seek Positive Confirmation 115
Creative Dose: Swipe File of Support 118
Stop Awfulizing 119
Creative Dose: “And then...” 120
Practice Radical Ratification 122
Stop Hiding in Plain Sight 123
Creative Dose: Your Uniqueness Advantage 124
Accept Who You Are 126
Creative Dose: Embrace Your Shake 128
Live Better Through Criticism 130
Creative Dose: Curious and Open 132
Stay True to Yourself 134
Creative Dose: More Clear, More Empowered 135
Choose to Contribute 136
Creative Dose: Focus on the Work 138
We’ve Only Just Begun 139
Chapter 4 | “Nothing I Do Is Any Good” - High Self-Criticism 143
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Put the Hammer Down 146
Self-Criticism Constrains 147
Attend To Your Self-Talk 149
Release Outdated Expectations and Shake Off Shame 151
Creative Dose: Get At the Source 156
Come To Your Own Defense 158
Creative Dose: Compassion for the Selves 162
Stay In the Present 164
Creative Dose: The Anti-Rumination Hand Squeeze 167
Creative Dose: S.H.I.F.T. to Three+3 168
Get Perspective and Gain Control 172
Create A Healthy Mental Distance 173
Creative Dose: Self-Talk Reboot 175
Break On Through To the Other Side 178
Creative Dose: Inner Critic Undoing 179
Change Your Mind By Hand 180
Creative Dose: Swipe Left 182
Cease Self-Censoring 183
Question and Challenge 185
Creative Dose: Get Up, Stand Up 187
Tune In to Tune Out 189
Creative Dose: Turn Down Da Noise, Turn Down Da Funk 191
Reassign Duty 193
Creative Dose: The Inner Critic As An Intern 194
Walking Away From the Hammer 196
Chapter 5 | “I’m Not Good Enough”- Deficiency Anxieties 199
Enough is Enough 201
Use Your Brainpower For Good 202
Think Like a Scientist 203
Creative Dose: Emotion and Thought Inquiry 203
Shift to Ample 206
You Are Enough 206
Creative Dose: Take Inventory 207
Readjust to Trust 210
Creative Dose: The Parallel Trust Universe 212
Be A Friend Indeed 213
Creative Dose: Quantum Companionship 214
Learn, Expand, and Mix It Up 218
Believe That You Can Be Informed and Able 219
Know the Four Stages of Competence 220
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