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- . - lln<lers a n ela 10n • I OTHER BooKs BY KEVIN B. BuRK Astrology: Understanding the Birth Chart (Llewllyn, 2001) The Complete Node Book (Llewellyn, 2003) The Relationship Handbook: How to Understand and Improve Every Relationship in Your Life (Serendipity Press, 2004) The Relationship Workbook: How to Understand and Improve Every Relationship in Your Life (Serendipity Press, 2004) Astrology Math Made Easy (Serendipity Press, 2005) The Relationship Workbook: How to Design and Create Your Ideal Romantic Relationship (Serendipity Press, 2005) The Relationship Workbook: The Secrets ofS uccessful Team Building (Serendipity Press, 2005) (B ow to Use Astro ogy to Understand ~ , W elationsh· p ·re in Your B. BURK KEVIN 0ERENDIPITY P·R·E · S·S SAN DIEGO, CALIFORNIA ISBN 0-9759682-8-9 © 2006 Kevin B. Burk. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, transmitted, transcribed, stored in a retrieval system, or translated into any language, in any form, by any means, without written permission of the author. Printed in the United States of America. Published by Serendipity Press 6161 El Cajon Blvd. #306 San Diego, CA 92n5 Portions of this work appear in slightly different versions in The Relationship Handbook: How to Understand and Improve Every Relationship in Your Life, © 2005 Kevin B. Burk, and in Astrology: Understanding the Birth Chart, © 2001 Kevin Burk. All horoscope charts in this book were generated using Solar Fire™, © Astrolabe, Inc. Book design and cover design by Kevin B. Burk. (B ASTROLOGICAL RELATIONSHIP HANDBOOK V Co TE TS ~1~ li TRODUCTIO TO R ELATIO §HIP ASTROLOGY I How To UsE THIS HANDBOOK .......................................................................................... 2 THE LA.ws OF RELATIONSHIP ASTROLOGY. .......................................................................... 3 THE SECRET TO COMPLETELY ACCURATE INTERPRETATIONS ............................................... 5 THE RIGHT TooL FOR THE RIGHT Jon ............................................................................... 5 ~2~ li H TRODUCTIO TO UMA RELATliO SHIP§ 7 BEING HOMAN ................................................................................................................... 7 THE EGO ............................................................................................................................ 8 WHAT ARE RELATIONSHIPS? ............................................................................................. IO RELATIONSHIP NEEDS ...................................................................................................... 12 NEED BANK ACCOUNTS .............................................................................................................. 13 RELATIONSHIP NEEDS BANK ACCOUNTS .................................................................................... 14 RELA.TIONSHIP CHECKLISTS .............................................................................................. 15 vs. WANTS NEEDS ..................................................................................................................... 16 RELATIONSHIP CHECKLIST LANGUAGES ............................................................................ 16 RELATIONSHIP BLUEPRINTS ............................................................................................... 18 ~3~ Usx JG CLASSICAL STROLOGY To CREATE A Co TEXT Fi TO o THE RELATIO §HIIP rr THE NATAL CHART 21 ELEMENTS AND MODALITIES ............................................................................................ 21 ELEMENTS ................................................................................................................................. 21 VI INTRODUCTION TO RELATIONSHIP ASTROLOGY? Fire ..................................................................................................................................................... 22 Earth .................................................................................................................................................. 22 AIR ................................................................................................................................................. 23 24 WATER •••••••.••.••..••.••••••••••..••..•.••••••••.••.••••••••••••.••.•.•••••••••••••.•.•••••••••.••.••.••.•••••••••.••.•..•••••••••.•••••.•.•••••. THE MODALITIES• .••••••.••..•.•..•...•.•.••.•.•••..•••.••••.•.•••••..•••.••••..••.••••••.•.••.•••.••.•••••.•••••.•...••••....•.••••••• 25 Cardinal .............................................................................................................................................. 25 26 FIXED •••••••••••.•••••••••••••••••..••.••••••••••••••..•.•••••••••..••••.••••••••••••.••••••••••••••.••.••••••••••••••..•.••••••••••••.••..•.•••••• 7 MUTABLE ..•.•...•..•....••..•........•..•..••..•........•..•..•...•.•......•..•........•...•....••.......•...•.•...•........•..•...........•..... 2 TEMPERAMENT: QUADRANTS AND HEMISPHERES ••••••••••••••.••••.••••••••••••••••••.•••••••••••••••••••••• 28 THE SOUTHERN HEMISPHERE ••••••••.••.••••••••.•••.••••.•••.•••••••.•••••.•.•.••••.•••.••••.•.•••••..••••••••••.•••.••••••••.• 29 THE NORTHERN HEMISPHERE .••.•.•.••.•••..•••.•••.••••.•••.•••••••.•••••.•.•.••••.•.•.••••.•.•••••..•••••.•.••.•••.•.••••.•.• 29 THE EASTERN HEMISPHERE .•...••...•..•...•..•...•..••..•.•.•..•..••...•..•...•.•....•.•.•..•.•.•.•.•..••..•......•.•.•...••.••• 29 THE WESTERN HEMISPHERE ...................................................................................................... 29 THE Q uAD RANTS ....•.••...•.•.•.•...••...•.••..••..••..•.•..•••.•••.••..••........•...•.•..•.••...•...••..•......•..••..•••.••.•.•.•.. 29 INTRODUCING CLASSICAL ASTROLOGY. ............................................................................. 30 INTRODUCTION TO ESSENTIAL DIGNITIES .................................................................................. 30 Rulership ............................................................................................................................................. 32 EXALTATION ..................................................................................................................................... 32 Tripliciry ............................................................................................................................................. 33 33 TERM .••.•••••••••••.••..•••••••••••.•..••••••••••••••..•.•••••••••.•••••.•••••••••••..••••••••••••••.••.•••••••••••••••••.•••••••••••••.•.••.••••••• FACE .....•..•......•..•...•••..••.......•.....•...........••..••.•...•.•..•..•..•.•.•........••....••..•........•..•..•.....••.•..••..........•.•... 34 Detriment .......................................................................................................................................... 34 35 FALL .••.•••••••...•.•••.•••••••••••..•.•.•••••••••••.....•••••••••.••••..••.••••••••..••••.••••.••••.••.•••••••••.••.•.••.•••.••.•••.••.•.••.••••••• 35 PEREGRINE •............•....••...........••....••...........••.....•...........•......•...........•.....••.....•.....•.....••.....•............•. A WoRD A:souT CLASSICAL INTERPRETATIONS •.•.•.••••.•.•...••.•••.••.•..•.•.•••••••..•••••......•.••••••...••••••.•. 36 How THE O UTER PLANETS FIT IN ••.•••..•.•.••••••••.••••••••.•.•..•••.••••••.•.••••.•••.••••••••••••.••••.•••••..•.••••••.•• 36 DISPOSITOR TREES ..................................................... ················ ....... ····················· ................... 37 CREATING A CONTEXT TO FIND THE RELATIONSHIP: ELIZABETH TAYLOR ••.••..••••..•••.•••.•••• 42 PART I: ELEMENTS AND MODALITIES •••••••••.•••••••••••••••••••••••••..•.•.••••.•.•.••••••.••••..••••••.•.••••.••••••.••••• 44 PART 2: TEMPERAMENT .............................................................................................................. 44 PART 3: ESSENTIAL DIGNITIES •.••••.•.••.•••.••••.•••.•••••••••••••••••••.••.•••.••••.•.•.••.•.•.••••.•••••••••.••.•••.••••.•.••• 4 5 PART 4: DISPOSITOR TREE DIAGRAM ......................................................................................... 45 ~4 ~ Moo ) S AFETY N EEDS {TI-IE 47 EXPLORING OUR SAFETY NEEDS •••.•••.•.••..••••.•••.••••.•••.••••.••••••••..••.••••..••••.•••.•••••.•••••••..••..••• 4 7 ·······················································································································47 SURVIVAL NEEDS ASTROLOGICAL RELATIONSHIP HANDBOOK VII Need to Know What to Expect ........................................................................................................... 48 EMOTIONAL CONNECTIONS ..•••.•.••.•...••.•.••••.•.•...••••..••....•••.•••..•.•.••••••.••••..••.•.•.•••..•••••••••..•••.••••...• 49 BOUNDARIES AND PERSONAL SPACE• .••.•.•......•...•.••.••..•....•..••......•.••••.•.••...•...•..••..•••.•..••..•••....•.•.• 49 Do How WE KNow WE'RE FEELING UNSAFE? ......••........•.......•••....•..•...•..•.......•...•........... 50 SAFETY CHECKLISTS: THE MooN ..................................................................................... 50 Fire Safety Checklists ........................................................................................................................... 51 THE 52 MooN IN AruEs ....................................................................................................................... 53 MooN IN LEo ................................................................................................................................... MooN IN SAGITTARIUS ..•...........••..•.•......•..••.......•....•.•...........•..•••...•...........•.•.•.....•.....•..••..........••..•.• 55 EARTH SAFETY CHECKLISTS ..•...•..•........•......•.......•..•...•..•.•.•......•......•.....................•......•.......••.•. 57 Moon in Taurus ................................................................................................................................... 58 60 MOON IN VIRGO .............................................................................................................................. MooN IN CAPRICORN ...................................................................................................................... 62 AIR SAFETY CHECKLISTS •.•.••.•.......••.•...••...•.•....•.••......••.•••....•.•..•.•...•••••••......••.•.•....•••.•.••.•.•.•..•.•. 64 Moon in Gemini ................................................................................................................................ 65 MooN IN LIBRA• •.••••...••.•.•.•.•..•••••..•••....•.••.•••••...••...•••••.•.•••....••••••••••.•••.•......•••••.•.••••••••.•••.••..•.•••••.••. 67 MooN IN AQUARIUS ........................................................................................................................ 69 WATER SAFETY CHECKLISTS ...................................................................................................... 72 Moon in Cancer ................................................................................................................................. 73 MooN IN ScoRPIO .......................................................................................................................... 75 77 MOON IN PISCES ............................................................................................................................. ~s~ (VE us) VALKDATKO NEEDS 80 EXPLORING OUR VALIDATION NEEDS ................................................................................ 80 GROUP AccEPT.ANCE NEEDS .....•...•......•......•..............................•......•....•............•...•......•......•...• 81 Acceptance by the Group .................................................................................................................... 81 82 EQUALITY WITHIN THE GROUP ························································--············· .. ·•·····•·•·•·••·····•••···•·••· 82 PROMINENCE IN THE GROUP ..•..••..........••..•.•••..•....•••...•.•••........•••...•..•..•.....•••....•..•..••.•..••..........••..•. SELF ACCEPTANCE NEEDS •••.•.••••••.••.•.•.•••..•••.••••.•.•••••••••••••••••••.••••••••.••••.•.••••.•••••••••.••.•.•.•.••••.•.••• 83 Asserting Individuality. ........................................................................................................................ 83 EQUALITY AS AN INDIVIDUAL ..•..••..•.......••..•......•....••..•..•••......•..••••..•..•...•....•••....•......•••..••..•.......•...•. 84 SELF-ESTEEM ..•..•....••.....•...........••..•........•......•..•....•...•..•••......•..••....••..........••..•..•....•......••..........•...•. 84 PRAISE, GRATITUDE AND LOVE ......•..•..•.••......•....•...•.•..........••....•....•......•••...•....•......••.••.••. 85 VALIDATION CHECKLISTS ...............•.....•........•...............•..•..............•........•........•........•...... 85 FIRE VALIDATION CHECKLISTS ................................................................................................... 86 Venus in Aries .................................................................................................................................... 87 VIII INTRODUCTION TO RELATIONSHIP ASTROLOGY? 89 VENUS IN LEO ....•..•..•..•..................•........•...........•......•..•........•...•.....•....•..•..•...............•..•.....•........... 90 VENUS IN SAGITTARIUS .................................................................................................................... EARTH VALIDATION CHECKLISTS ................................................................................................ 92 Venus in Taurus .................................................................................................................................. 93 VENUS IN VIRGO •........•..•............•..•.....•..•..•........•......•..•............••............•..•••.......•.....•..••..........••..•. 95 VENUS IN CAPRICORN ...................................................................................................................... 97 AIR VALIDATION CHECKLISTS .......•.•........••...•.•..........•....•........•.•....•.•...•..........•....••..•......•.•...••. 99 Venus in Gemini .............................................................................................................................. 100 Venus in Libra ................................................................................................................................... 101 VENUS IN AQUARIUS ...................................................................................................................... I 03 w ATER VALIDATION CHECKLISTS ............................................................................................. 104 Venus in Cancer ................................................................................................................................ 105 VENUS IN SCORPIO ........................................................................................................................ 107 VENUS IN PISCES ........................................................................................................................... 108 ~6~ CA WE MEET O UR NEEDS? J III FEELING SAFE AND FEELING VALIDATED (PICK ONE) .••••..••.••••..••..•••..•••..•••.••.•.•••.••••.•••..•••I II IDENTICAL MOON AND VENUS .................................................................................................. 112 COMPATIBLE MooN AND VENUS SIGNS• .•••..•.•.•..•.•...••..•••..•..•.•.•.•.••...•.•..•...••.........•••..•.....••...•.•• 112 BALANCING ACTS ...................................................................................................................... 114 CONFLICTS OF INTEREST ........................................................................................................... 114 No COMMON GROUND .•.•••••...••.•.•.••.•••.••••.•.•.••••.•••.•••••••..••...•.•.•.•..•.•.•.••.•.•••••..•••••.•.•..•••.••.•.•.•. 115 SATURN ASPECTS: CHECKLISTS FROM HELL .................................................................... 116 MOON-SATURN ASPECTS ........................................................................................................... 117 Moon conjunct Saturn ...................................................................................................................... 118 MooN SQUARE SATURN ................................................................................................................... 118 MooN OPPOSITE SATuRN. ...............................................................................................................1 19 MooN QUINCUNX SATURN .............................................................................................................. 119 VENUS-SATURN ASPECTS .......................................................................................................... 120 Venus conjunct Saturn ..................................................................................................................... 120 VENUS SQUARE SATURN ................................................................................................................... 121 VENUS OPPOSITE SATURN. ............................................................................................................... 12I VENUS QUINCUNX SATURN ............................................................................................................. 122 URANUS ASPECTS: EXPECTING REJECTION, FEARING ABANDONMENT, AND ASSUMING U NRELIA..B ILITY ........................................................................................................... I 22 MooN-UR ANUS ASPECTS .......................................................................................................... 123 ASTROLOGICAL RELATIONSHIP HANDBOOK IX Moon conjunct Uranus .................................................................................................................... 124 MooN SEXTILE URANUS ................................................................................................................ 124 u MOON SQUARE RANUS .................•...........................•................•.......•....•..................•..................•1 25 Moon trine Uranus ............................................................................................................................ 125 MOON OPPOSITE URANUS .............................................................................................................. 126 MooN QUINCUNX URANUs ............................................................................................................ 126 u VENUS- RANUS ASPECTS ...•..•.......•................•.....................•.....................................•............. 126 Venus conjunct Uranus ..................................................................................................................... 127 u VENUS SEXTILE RANUS ................................................................................................................ 127 u VENUS SQUARE RANUS ................................................................................................................. 128 u VENUS TRINE RANUS ................................................................................................................... 128 VENUS OPPOSITE URANUS .............................................................................................................. 128 VENUS QUINCUNX URANUS ............................................................................................................ 129 NEPTUNE ASPECTS: BAD BOUNDARIES AND HOPELESS ROMANTICS ................................1 29 MOON-NEPTUNE ASPECTS ........................................................................................................ 130 Moon conjunct Neptune ................................................................................................................... 130 MooN SEXTILE NEPTUNE ............................................................................................................... 131 MooN SQUARE NEPTUNE ................................................................................................................ 131 MOON TRINE NEPTUNE .................................................................................................................. 132 MooN OPPOSITE NEPTUNE. ............................................................................................................ 132 MooN QUINCUNX NEPTUNE ........................................................................................................... 133 VENUS-NEPTUNE ASPECTS ........................................................................................................ 133 Venus conjunct Neptune ................................................................................................................... 134 Venus sextile Neptune ....................................................................................................................... 134 VENUS SQUARE NEPTUNE ................................................................................................................ 134 VENUS TRINE NEPTUNE .................................................................................................................. 135 VENUS OPPOSITE NEPTUNE. ............................................................................................................ 135 VENUS QUINCUNX NEPTUNE ...........................................................................................................1 36 PLUTO ASPECTS: POWER, CONTROL, MANIPULATION AND ABUSE •••••.••••••••..•.•••••..••.•••••.•• 136 PLUTO AND ABUSE .................................................................................................................... 137 MOON-PLUTO ASPECTS. ............................................................................................................ 138 Moon conjunct Pluto ........................................................................................................................ 139 MooN SEXTILE PLUTO ....................................................................................................................1 39 MooN SQUARE PLUTO ....................................................................................................................1 39 Moon trine Pluto ............................................................................................................................. 140 MooN OPPOSITE PLUTO ................................................................................................................ 140 MooN QUINCUNX PLUTO ............................................................................................................... 140 VENUS-PLUTO ASPECTS ............................................................................................................. 141 Venus conjunct Pluto ........................................................................................................................ 141 VENUS SEXTILE PLUTO ................................................................................................................... 142 VENUS SQUARE PLUTO. ................................................................................................................... 142