000011--000099__AAlllliieess__PPrreelliimmss..iinndddd 22 2211//0055//22002211 0077::3322 First American Edition, 2021 Published in the United States by DK Publishing 1450 Broadway, Suite 801, NewYork, NY 10018 Page and cover design copyright © 2021 Dorling Kindersley Limited DK, a Division of Penguin Random House LLC REAL TALK 21 22 23 24 25 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 001–324016–September/2021 ABOUT SHOWING UP, “Dana’s Absolutely Perfect Fail-Safe No Mistakes Guaranteed Way to Be an Ally” Text copyright © Dana Alison Levy, 2021 SCREWING UP, “An Open Letter to the Young Black Queer” Text copyright © Cam Montgomery, 2021 “Hey Kid, Choose Your Battles” Text copyright © Eric Smith, 2021 AND TRYING “Round and Round We Go” Text copyright © Kayla Whaley, 2021 AGAIN “This Is What It Feels Like” Text copyright © Andrew Sass, 2021 “A Bus, a Poster, and a Mirror” Text copyright © Brendan Kiely, 2021 “Travel Logs of a Black Caribbean Woman: Embracing the Glitches” Text copyright © Shakirah Bourne, 2021 “Stutter Buddy” Text and Illustration copyright © Derick Brooks, 2021 “The Unsafe Space” Text copyright © Adiba Jaigirdar, 2021 “Dismantling Judgment” Text copyright © Lizzie Huxley-Jones, 2021 “Why Didn’t Anyone Else SayAnything?” Text copyright © Naomi Evans and Natalie Evans, 2021 “From Author, to Ally, to Co-conspirator” Text copyright © Ilene Yi-Zhen Wong, 2021 “Lupe” Text copyright © Aida Salazar, 2021 “Did You Know Gandhi Was Racist?” Text copyright © Sharan Dhaliwal, 2021 “Lifting As She Climbs” Text copyright © Andrea L. Rogers, 2021 “Counting on Esteban” Text copyright © Marietta B. Zacker, 2021 All rights reserved. Without limiting the rights under the copyright reserved above, no part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in or introduced into a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form, or by any means (electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise), without the priorwritten permission of the copyright owner. Published in Great Britain by Dorling Kindersley Limited This book is substantially a work of nonfiction based on the experiences and recollections of the authors. In some cases names of people, places, dates, sequences, EDITED BY or the detail of events have been changed to protect the privacy of others. SHAKIRAH BOURNE Jacket design byAnita Mangan & DANA ALISON LEVY A catalog record for this book is available from the Library of Congress. ISBN 978-0-7440-3991-7 Printed and bound in Great Britain For thecurious www.dk.com 000011--000099__AAlllliieess__PPrreelliimmss..iinndddd 33 2211//0055//22002211 0077::3322 000011--000099__AAlllliieess__PPrreelliimmss..iinndddd 44 2211//0055//22002211 0077::3322 First American Edition, 2021 Published in the United States by DK Publishing 1450 Broadway, Suite 801, New York, NY 10018 Page and cover design copyright © 2021 Dorling Kindersley Limited DK, a Division of Penguin Random House LLC 21 22 23 24 25 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 001–324016–September/2021 “Dana’s Absolutely Perfect Fail-Safe No Mistakes Guaranteed Way to Be an Ally” Text copyright © Dana Alison Levy, 2021 “An Open Letter to the Young Black Queer” Text copyright © Cam Montgomery, 2021 “Hey Kid, Choose Your Battles” Text copyright © Eric Smith, 2021 “Round and Round We Go” Text copyright © Kayla Whaley, 2021 “This Is What It Feels Like” Text copyright © Andrew Sass, 2021 “A Bus, a Poster, and a Mirror” Text copyright © Brendan Kiely, 2021 “Travel Logs of a Black Caribbean Woman: Embracing the Glitches” Text copyright © Shakirah Bourne, 2021 “Stutter Buddy” Text and Illustration copyright © Derick Brooks, 2021 “The Unsafe Space” Text copyright © Adiba Jaigirdar, 2021 “Dismantling Judgment” Text copyright © Lizzie Huxley-Jones, 2021 “Why Didn’t Anyone Else Say Anything?” Text copyright © Naomi Evans and Natalie Evans, 2021 “From Author, to Ally, to Co-conspirator” Text copyright © Ilene Yi-Zhen Wong, 2021 “Lupe” Text copyright © Aida Salazar, 2021 “Did You Know Gandhi Was Racist?” Text copyright © Sharan Dhaliwal, 2021 “Lifting As She Climbs” Text copyright © Andrea L. Rogers, 2021 “Counting on Esteban” Text copyright © Marietta B. Zacker, 2021 All rights reserved. Without limiting the rights under the copyright reserved above, no part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in or introduced into a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form, or by any means (electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise), without the prior written permission of the copyright owner. Published in Great Britain by Dorling Kindersley Limited This book is substantially a work of nonfiction based on the experiences and recollections of the authors. In some cases names of people, places, dates, sequences, or the detail of events have been changed to protect the privacy of others. Jacket design by Anita Mangan A catalog record for this book is available from the Library of Congress. ISBN 978-0-7440-3991-7 Printed and bound in Great Britain For the curious www.dk.com 000011--000099__AAlllliieess__PPrreelliimmss..iinndddd 44 2211//0055//22002211 0077::3322 To Marietta, thanks for wearing all the hats. To everyone reading, thank you for taking this journey with us. — Shakirah and Dana 000011--000099__AAlllliieess__PPrreelliimmss..iinndddd 55 2211//0055//22002211 0077::3322 000011--000099__AAlllliieess__PPrreelliimmss..iinndddd 66 2211//0055//22002211 0077::3322 000011--000099__AAlllliieess__PPrreelliimmss..iinndddd 66 2211//0055//22002211 0077::3322 CONTENTS 1 Dana’s Absolutely Perfect Fail-Safe No WAIT! Mistakes Guaranteed Way to Be an Ally BY DANA ALISON LEVY..................................................10 We’re so glad you’re here, and we wanted to share some important information with you before you read on. Each of the personal essays in this book explores 2 An Open Letter to the Young Black Queer experiences about real things that happened to real BY CAM MONTGOMERY ...............................................24 people. Some of them cover topics that could make you feel anxious or upset. These experiences might 3 Hey Kid, Choose Your Battles remind you of things you’ve been through, or things BY ERIC SMITH ...............................................................36 that people you care about have been through. It’s okay to put the book down, clear your head, and come back whenever you feel ready to read some more. 4 Round and Round We Go BY KAYLA WHALEY ........................................................46 If you need support around any of the issues described in this book, check out the “Stuff to think about, further reading, and more resources” section at the back of 5 This Is What It Feels Like the book where you can find out about some great BY A.J. SASS .....................................................................58 organizations and get more information. 6 A Bus, a Poster, and a Mirror BY BRENDAN KIELY ........................................................76 7 Travel Logs of a Black Caribbean Woman: Embracing the Glitches BY SHAKIRAH BOURNE ................................................90 8 Stutter Buddy BY DERICK BROOKS ....................................................108 9 The Unsafe Space BY ADIBA JAIGIRDAR ..................................................120 000011--000099__AAlllliieess__PPrreelliimmss..iinndddd 77 2211//0055//22002211 0077::3322 000011--000099__AAlllliieess__PPrreelliimmss..iinndddd 88 2211//0055//22002211 0077::3322 CONTENTS 1 Dana’s Absolutely Perfect Fail-Safe No Mistakes Guaranteed Way to Be an Ally BY DANA ALISON LEVY..................................................10 2 An Open Letter to the Young Black Queer BY CAM MONTGOMERY ...............................................24 3 Hey Kid, Choose Your Battles BY ERIC SMITH ...............................................................36 4 Round and Round We Go BY KAYLA WHALEY ........................................................46 5 This Is What It Feels Like BY A.J. SASS .....................................................................58 6 A Bus, a Poster, and a Mirror BY BRENDAN KIELY ........................................................76 7 Travel Logs of a Black Caribbean Woman: Embracing the Glitches BY SHAKIRAH BOURNE ................................................90 8 Stutter Buddy BY DERICK BROOKS ....................................................108 9 The Unsafe Space BY ADIBA JAIGIRDAR ..................................................120 000011--000099__AAlllliieess__PPrreelliimmss..iinndddd 88 2211//0055//22002211 0077::3322 1 10 Dismantling Judgment BY LIZZIE HUXLEY-JONES ..........................................134 DANA’S ABSOLUTELY 11 “Why Didn’t Anyone Else Say Anything?” PERFECT FAIL-SAFE BY NAOMI AND NATALIE EVANS................................146 NO MISTAKES 12 From Author, to Ally, to Co-conspirator BY I.W. GREGORIO .......................................................160 GUARANTEED WAY 13 Lupe TO BE AN ALLY BY AIDA SALAZAR .........................................................172 14 “Did You Know Gandhi Was Racist?” DANA ALISON LEVY BY SHARAN DHALIWAL ..............................................180 Hahahahaha! That’s so . . . oh. Wait. You thought I was serious 15 Lifting As She Climbs with that title? BY ANDREA L. ROGERS................................................192 Yeah, sorry about that. 16 Counting on Esteban Being a good ally without making mistakes is like eating popcorn BY MARIETTA B. ZACKER............................................202 without dropping any on the floor: it’s possible, but let’s be honest, it rarely happens. For instance, let’s try this quiz: Stuff to think about, further reading, 1. You (an able-bodied person) see someone in a wheelchair and more resources ...................................................215 moving through a doorway. Should you: a. Rush to open the door for them About the authors .....................................................234 b. Leave them alone Acknowledgments ....................................................239 10 000011--000099__AAlllliieess__PPrreelliimmss..iinndddd 99 2244//0055//22002211 1155::1166 001100--002233__DDAANNAA__LLEEVVYY..iinndddd 1100 2211//0055//22002211 0077::3322 1 DANA’S ABSOLUTELY PERFECT FAIL-SAFE NO MISTAKES GUARANTEED WAY TO BE AN ALLY DANA ALISON LEVY Hahahahaha! That’s so . . . oh. Wait. You thought I was serious with that title? Yeah, sorry about that. Being a good ally without making mistakes is like eating popcorn without dropping any on the floor: it’s possible, but let’s be honest, it rarely happens. For instance, let’s try this quiz: 1. You (an able-bodied person) see someone in a wheelchair moving through a doorway. Should you: a. Rush to open the door for them b. 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