A Gift for a Muslim Bride

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by  Muhammad Haneef Abdul Majeed

By
Muhammad Hanecf Abdul Majccd
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The Advice of a Pious Father to his Daughter to be Married.........43

An Obedient Wife...................................................................44

The Demise of Hadhrat Khadeeja (R.A) ....................................45
A Gift for Muslim Bride Du’aa...................................................................................46

Salutations of Peace from Us All..............................................46

Hadhrat Sauda bint Zam’ah (R.A)...............................................49

Conversion to Islaam.............................................................49

Forfeiting her Turn for the pleasure of her Husband...................49

Sincerely Obeying the Husband...............................................50

Generosity............................................................................51

An Easy Way of Becoming Generous........................................52
How to read this book.............................................................. 11
The Testimony of a Co-Wife....................................................52
Introduction............................................................................ 13
Her Demise...........................................................................52
Save your Husbands from Sin................................................... 14

The First Advice....................................................................... 16
Hadhrat Zaynab bint Muhammad ε (R.A).....................................54
The Second Advice................................................................... 16
A Loyal Wife..........................................................................54
The Third Advice...................................................................... 16
Separation from her Husband..................................................54
The Fourth Advice.................................................................... 17
Loyalty to her Husband ..........................................................55
The Fifth Advice....................................................................... 17
Testimony of the Husband......................................................57
The Sixth Advice...................................................................... 17
Love for the Husband.............................................................59

Women who make Men Old Before their Time ...........................61
Foreword................................................................................... 18
The Good Influence that a Pious Mother has on her Daughter......63
An Offering of Thanks to Rasulullaah ρ from all Muslim Women ..... 21

Hadhrat Ruqayya bint Muhammad ε (R.A) ...................................65
The Six Exemplary Women ....................................................... 22
The Wife of Hadhrat Uthmaan τ...............................................65
Why Women were Created........................................................ 23
The Second Migration.............................................................65
The Testimony of the Qur'aan................................................. 24
The Demise of Hadhrat Ruqayya (R.A) .....................................66
The Du’aa of Allaah ’s Sincere Bondsmen................................. 25

The Pious Wife ........................................................................ 26
Hadhrat Ummu Hakeem bintul Haarith (R.A)................................68
Islaam’s Standard of Judging a Good Wife................................ 27
Sacrifice...............................................................................68

Concern for her Husband........................................................68
Hadhrat Khadeeja (R.A) ........................................................... 28
Her Second Marriage..............................................................69
Her Lineage.......................................................................... 28
It is the Responsibility of the Wife to Make her Husband Lead a
Hadhrat Khadeeja (R.A) Comforts Rasulullaah ρ........................ 28
Pious Life..............................................................................69
Sacrificing One’s Wealth for One’s Husband.............................. 32
Making her Husband a Muslim Through Marriage.......................70
Advising the Husband Correctly.............................................. 34
An Example of a Woman Changing her Husband fro the Better....71
Making Sacrifices for the Husband........................................... 36
There is no Harm for a Widow to Remarry ................................73
Serving the Husband............................................................. 38
A Woman without a Husband is a Pauper..................................75
Obeying the Husband Completely ........................................... 40
Marriage brings Wealth and Averts Poverty...............................76
Some Ahadeeth Concerning Obeying the Husband and Fulfilling
Why is it Necessary for a Widow to Remarry?............................77
his Rights............................................................................. 41
An Incident of a Saint.............................................................78
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The Second Principle............................................................105

Khowla bint Maalik bin Tha’laba (R.A) ........................................ 79 An Excellent Method of Softening One’s Husband.....................107

Being Patient with an Aged Husband....................................... 81 A Miracle Cure.....................................................................108

What Should the Wife do When her Husband is at Fault? ........... 82 A Woman’s Ability to Tame a Man..........................................109

The Failing of Husband and Wife and a Word of Caution to Both . 82

The First Incident.................................................................. 84 Women Cannot be Equal to Men...............................................110

The Second Incident.............................................................. 84

An Effective Manner of Creating Love in Your Husband’s Heart.....111

The Etiquette of Entering a Home.............................................. 85 When Allaah Ι Looks at a Couple with Love and Mercy.................111

First Greet with Salaam and then Ask Permission to Enter....... 85 A Smile Revives the Heart.......................................................112

Identify Yourself when Requesting Permission to Enter.......... 86

One Should Thrice Seek Permission to Enter.......................... 86 A Pious Lady called Hadhrat Ummu Sulaym (R.A).......................113

Never Knock the Door too Loudly......................................... 87 As a Preacher......................................................................114

As a Warrior........................................................................114

Reducing Anger....................................................................... 87 As a Pillar of Fortitude and Wisdom........................................114

The First Cure For Anger : Wudhu........................................... 88 Rasulullaah ρ’s Concern for her..............................................115

The Second Cure .................................................................. 89 Her Sacrifices for the Propagation of Deen and the Glad Tidings of

The Third Cure ..................................................................... 90 Rasulullaah ρ.......................................................................116

The Fourth Cure ................................................................... 90

The Fifth Cure ...................................................................... 91 Women were also Muftis..........................................................119

The Sixth Cure ..................................................................... 91

Five Qualities of a Pious Wife...................................................119

The Deadly Poison of Backchating.............................................. 92 The First Quality..................................................................119

Be Concerned about Your Husband’s Comfort.............................. 93 Hadhrat Abu Dardaa τ Advises his Wife................................120

Make your Husband your Friend ................................................ 94 Uniting Two Hearts............................................................121

How to Make Your Husband your Friend................................... 94 The Jihaad of Women........................................................122

The Second Quality..............................................................123

Factors that Attract the Husband............................................... 94 A Grave Error of Many Women............................................123

A Wife Should Never Look Down on her Husband......................... 95 The Third Quality.................................................................124

The Fourth Quality...............................................................124
Diagnosis and Treatment of Two Evil Traits in Many Women – The A Wife Should be Genuinely Concerned about her Husband’s

First Evil Trait.......................................................................... 96 Wealth.............................................................................125

An Interesting Incident.......................................................... 98 Lavish Weddings...............................................................126

A Du’aa that Every Woman should Make.................................. 98 Hosting Simple Marriage Ceremonies...................................126

The Second Evil Trait............................................................. 99 The Fifth Quality..................................................................127

Animosity Between Women Causes Animosity Between Men ........100 A Formula that will Eliminate Disputes between Couples..............128

An Appeal to Men.................................................................101 The Story of Hadhrat Isma’eel (υ)’s First Wife.........................130

Caring for Orphaned Brothers-and-Sisters-in-Law....................103 The Story of Hadhrat Isma’eel (υ)’s Second Wife.....................131

Both Husband and Wife should Exercise Patience........................133

Two Principles for Avoiding Domestic Disputes ...........................103 When Something Goes Wrong...............................................133

The First Principle................................................................104
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Advice to Women....................................................................136 The Routine of a Pious Wife.....................................................171

Keeping the Husband’s Feelings in Mind.....................................136 Learning a Lesson from the life of Hadhrat Faatima (R.A)............173

An Unparalleled Relationship....................................................136

How I Conquered My Husband..................................................137 Rights Pertaining to Wealth......................................................174

Do not Divorce me..................................................................139 Hadhrat Aa'isha (R.A) Spends on Others.................................175

Never ask for Anything Above your Husband’s Means..................141 A Wife who Used to Spend on Allaah’s Pious Bondsmen............176

How an Intelligent Woman Runs her Home .............................142 A Woman who Entertained Guests.........................................176

The Etiquette of Meeting One’s Husband when he Returns from a The Queen Zubayda (A.R) ....................................................177

Journey.................................................................................143 An Important Right of the Husband that Women are Heedless

Take Good Care of Your Husband’s Possessions..........................144 About.................................................................................179

A Woman Should Respond Immediately...............................181

What a Wife Should do when her Husband Becomes Angry..........145 Nikaah is the Means of Securing Comfort.............................181

The Approach of a Wise Wife.................................................145 Reward for Satisfying One’s Desire Lawfully.........................181

The Woman Whom the Angels Curse...................................181

When a Husband Strikes up an Extra Marital Relationship............146 The Opinion of Experts in the Field of Psychology..................183
Nafl Fasts may be Observed Only With the Husband’s

How to Live Amicably with In-Laws...........................................147 Permission.......................................................................185

Some Advice..........................................................................147 Obeying One’s Husband is more Important than Nafl Acts of

Ponder Awhile!....................................................................149 Worship...........................................................................185

How a Woman can Become her Husband’s Darling......................151 A Mother’s Advice to her Daughter............................................185

(1) The Couple Should be Pious and United.............................151 A Groom’s Gift to his Bride ......................................................187

Women Entering Jannah Before Their Husbands....................153

The Person Who Refuses to be a Servant of One will be the Some Golden Principles for Every Bride to Follow........................188

Slave of Thousands...........................................................153 How to Live in your Parent’s Home.........................................191

The Strange Psychology of a New Culture ............................154 The Manner of Living with One’s Husband...............................192

To Summarise:.................................................................155 Capturing Your Husband’s Heart.........................................192

Progress or Destruction?....................................................155

(2) Recognising the Husband’s Temperament..........................156 Every Woman’s Wish ..............................................................197

(3) Praising the Husband and Having True Love for Him ...........157 Learn to Love Your Husband .................................................197

A Principle to Follow for a Sound Relationship Between Husband Conquer His Heart ...............................................................197

and Wife..........................................................................161 “You Mind Your Own Business and I’ll Mind Mine” ....................198

A Sign of True Love...........................................................162 Secure Fasten the Bond of Love.............................................198

The Woman who will Enter Jannah......................................163 Identify his Preferences........................................................198

(4) Cooking Good Food for Him .............................................163 What Do Men Like?..............................................................198

Imaam Ghazaali (A.R)’s Advice to The Bride ..............................167 A Dialogue Between Mother and Daughter.................................201

A Special Practice...................................................................167 The Mother’s Reply..............................................................202

The Rewards for Carrying Out One’s Domestic Chores.................168

Doing the Housework..............................................................168 Disputes Between Mothers-and-Daughters-in-Law......................206

The Domestic Life of Hadhrat Faatima (R.A)...............................169 The Evil of Disputes and Arguments.......................................206

Acquiring Skills.......................................................................171 Disputes Caused by the Mother-in-Law...................................207
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Disputes Caused by Sisters-in-Law.........................................208 Opening the Locks to Your Husband’s Heart...............................303

Disputes Caused by the Daughter-in-Law................................208 (1) Sight ............................................................................304

How Every Mother-in-Law Should Think..................................209 (2) Hearing.........................................................................304

How the Daughter-in-Law Should Think..................................210 (3) Smell............................................................................305

A House Burned Down By Its Own Lantern..............................213 The Importance of Oral Hygiene.........................................306

(4) Touch ...........................................................................309

Parting Advice........................................................................221 (5) Taste............................................................................310

The Precious Parting Gift of a Father to his Daughter Hafsa..........223

The Etiquette of Writing a Letter to Your Husband......................312

The Etiquette of Leaving Home.................................................226 A Letter to a Beloved ...........................................................316

The Du’aas that Women Make for Their Husbands Every Morning227

Pinning One’s Hopes Only in Allaah Ι.........................................318

The Etiquette of Conversing with One’s Husband........................229 A Good Turn is Never Forgotten ...............................................321

What a Wife Should Never Do ..................................................233 There is a Great Woman Behind Every Successful Man................323

The Formula for Avoiding All Types of Trouble............................240 The Description of a Perfect Wife..............................................326

Every Woman Should Think for Herself......................................242

A Woman Should not Disclose her Family’s Secrets to Her Husband243 Advices for a Bride..................................................................329

The Couple Should Never Reveal Their Private Lives to Others .....246 Salaah................................................................................329

Guarding the Husband’s Secrets...............................................247 Hijaab................................................................................329

Abstaining from Photographing and Videoing...........................333

Harmonising One’s Sentiments and Preferences With Those of One’s Beauty Salons.....................................................................334

Husband................................................................................249 Avoiding Ta’weezaat That do Not Conform With the Shari'ah........339

A Good Wife is Content With What Allaah Decides.......................252 Avoiding Jealousy...................................................................340

How an Intelligent Wife Should Deal With a Foolish Husband........253 When a Woman has the Ill-Fortune of Being Married to a Constantly

A Good Wife is Always Loyal to her Husband..............................257 Warring Ingrate......................................................................341

A Good Wife Has Eyes Only For Her Husband.............................259 A Valuable Lesson for Every Good Wife .....................................347

Courting After the Engagement................................................348

A Mother’s Advice to her Daughter on the Night of her Marriage...261 Never Shake Hands With Non-Mahram Men...............................350

A Father’s Advice to his Daughter.............................................263 Rasulullaah ρ’s Advice to Women..............................................352
The Advice of Hadhrat Maulana Muhammad Ahmad Surti (A.R) to

his Daughter.......................................................................266 He Earns But She Reaps the Reward.........................................353

The Virtues of Sadaqah ........................................................354

The Importance of Keeping the Children Clean and Tidy..............277 The Harms of Hoarding.........................................................356

Using Perfume for the Husband................................................282

Honeymoons..........................................................................284 The Rights of Neighbours.........................................................359

Your Husband is Either Your Jannah or Your Jahannam................288 Behaviour with One’s Neighbours...........................................359

A Comparison Between Two Women .........................................290 A Good Neighbour................................................................360

How Can One Tired Person Comfort Another Tired Person? ..........295 Observing Hijaab in Front of Neighbours.................................361

The Perfect Wife.....................................................................297

True Love Between Husband and Wife.......................................299 A Wife With Salaah.................................................................362

Who is a Beautiful Woman?......................................................301 Stealing From One’s Salaah..................................................363

Other Deficiencies in Our Salaah............................................364
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The Salaah of a Woman...........................................................369 Parting Advice for the Bride.....................................................413

When Commencing Salaah....................................................370 The Du’aa for a Married Couple................................................415

When Standing Upright.........................................................370 Reply Clearly .........................................................................417

When in Ruku......................................................................371 Have Mercy on Your Children...................................................419

Getting Up from Ruku...........................................................372

When in Sajdah...................................................................372 An Estranged Wife’s Letter to her Husband................................422

Sitting Between the Sajdahs..................................................373 The Husband’s Reply............................................................427

The Second Sajdah..............................................................374 The Story Afterwards...........................................................428

In Qa’dah............................................................................374 My Advice to My Sisters.....................................................428

When Ending the Salaah With Salaam....................................374

An Examination Paper.............................................................430

Making Du’aa.........................................................................376

The Method of Making Du’aa .................................................376 The Last Will and Testament of a Muslim...................................433

Du’aa After the Fardh Salaah.................................................376 A Good Husband’s Parting Words to his Wife..............................433

An Excellent Du’aa For Every Woman.....................................377 A Good Wife’s Final Words to Her Husband................................436

Du’aa for a Good Partner......................................................377

The Du’aa after Marriage ......................................................379 Some Beneficial books for Women to Read................................438
Du’aas for Protection From an Evil Husband and an Cruel Mother-

in-law.................................................................................380 In Conclusion.........................................................................440

Waking Up at Night to Make Du’aa.........................................381

Ten Practices of Rasulullaah ρ ..................................................384

The Method of Greeting........................................................386

The Benefits of Greeting.......................................................387

The Meaning of the Salaam...................................................387

Another Meaning of Salaam................................................388

The Islaamic Greeting is Better Than any Other Form of Greeting388

In a Nutshell.......................................................................389

An Important Ruling.............................................................390

Simplicity............................................................................393
Rasulullaah ρ Marries and Hosts a Waleema Function While on

Journey ...........................................................................396

Oppressive Mothers-in-Law......................................................399

The “Jahez”.........................................................................400

The “Jahez” is a Hindu Custom..............................................402

A Misconception...................................................................403

Giving a Gold Necklace to the Groom’s Mother.........................405

Feeding the Bride’s In-laws...................................................407

The Marriage and Waleema According to the Sunnah..................409

To Summarise.....................................................................411

The Rights Wives Owe to their Husbands...................................412
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this subject pertains to a woman’s life as a Muslim woman or as a wife

or as a mother, or it may even be something that could terminate
disputes. Should such a though occur to one, one should make a note
How to read this book of it under the heading of “Clarification” and bring it to the attention
of the publisher or the compiler, specifying the page number and line

number where it is to be added.
This book deals with people’s domestic life. Since one’s domestic

happiness has a direct bearing on one’s happiness outside the home,
While reading the book, one should make du’aa to Allaah Ι that He
we advise that the contents of this book should be read with great
creates love and affection between all married Muslim couples and
earnestness and that the failings cautioned against should be avoided.
that He makes them all a means of rearing pious children. One should
Although these failings may result from immaturity and inexperience,
make du’aa daily that Allaah Ι keeps them all happy together with all
they are nevertheless extremely harmful. One should read this book
those getting married. Together with reading this book and
with the intention of reforming oneself. One will be able to avoid these
progressing spiritually and morally, one should also pass these
failings if one reads this book with the following advices in mind:
advices on to other women.

1. Before reading the book, make du’aa to Allaah Ι saying, “O Allaah
The final request to the reader is to make du’aa for the compiler of
! Make this book a means for my guidance and make me the
this book, the people who authored the books from which information
delight of my husband’s eyes and make me his most valuable
was taken and all those who assisted in this publication in any way. Of
asset.”
course, the person making the du’aa will never be deprived of the

good of the du’aa. May Allaah Ι reward you all tremendously.
2. Set aside such time for reading this book, which is free from

disturbances and worries, because a mind that is preoccupied with

other concerns will soon become weary with the subject matter of

any book.

3. An important advice is that this book should be read in sequence #
from cover to cover even though this may take months. In fact,
one should never grow despondent even if it takes longer than a
few months. An easy way to ensure that one completes the book
is to calculate a specific number of pages that one will read daily,
based on the total number of pages in the book. A book mark
should always be used to mark the page where one stops.

4. Another extremely important advice is that one should keep a
pencil handy to mark places that mention something especially
pertinent to one. These parts should be read many times and
du’aa should be made to Allaah Ι to grant one the ability to
practise accordingly.

Another benefit of keeping a pencil handy is that when reading, it may
occur to one that some subject matter which may satisfy the thirst of
some Muslim sister has not been included in this book. It may be that
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Μ Save your Husbands from Sin

Our Muslim sisters are generally negligent of attracting their husbands
to themselves sufficiently by beautification and by other means. As a
Introduction result, even if they are physically close to the husband, it is as if they
are not there at all. Whether the consequences of this are light or
serious, it is unfortunate that the woman will have to bear the brunt
This book cites the sterling examples of six women during the time of of it all. Allaah Ι has made the wife a garment of her husband and vice
Rasulullaah ρ. The lessons that this book teaches include: versa. However, many women do not seem to give this enough
thought. Whereas an important function of garments is to conceal the
(cid:1) Obeying the husband body, another very important purpose of clothing is to beautify a
(cid:1) True love for the husband person.
(cid:1) Honouring and serving the husband
(cid:1) Being loyal towards the husband Just as clothing wraps a person, a woman should beautify herself so
(cid:1) Making one’s husband a Muslim or a pious person that she wraps her husband’s attention exclusively for herself. She
(cid:1) Qualities of a good wife should captivate his attention and imagination by fulfilling all his
(cid:1) How to remain the beloved of one’s husband permissible desires. A person is open and unrestricted beneath his
(cid:1) Bad habits of women and ways of losing them clothing, yet he appears well covered in front of people. Similarly, a
(cid:1) How to live in harmony with one’s in-laws married man’s chastity is well protected in public because he has a
(cid:1) The rights that women owe to their husbands wife. However, he is open and unrestricted to satisfy himself with her
(cid:1) Advice for the married couple in a permissible manner. She therefore has an extremely important
(cid:1) Formulas to avoid disputes between a bride and her husband, function to fulfil because she is the only means by which her husband
mother-in-law and sisters-in-law, which often lead to premature can satisfy his sensual passions. Now if a woman has to be dressed
separations and bitter feelings between entire families like a street-sweeper and is careless about personal hygiene, her
husband will have no interest in her. His eyes will then start roving
Besides the above there are many other subjects and solutions and it should never occur that the poisonous arrows of infatuation
discussed. By practising the teachings of this book, a home can penetrate his heart.
become a garden of Jannah and means of attaining success in this
world and in the Aakhirah (Hereafter). Is the cure for this situation not that a woman should keep herself
attractive so that her husband’s eyes stay riveted to her? If a wife
neglects this, she will soon find her husband enamoured with the
An Important Note parading masqueraders adorned with the artificial beauty and false
glitter all manufactured by beauty parlours. The evil effect of this will

even distract him from remembering Allaah Ι. We therefore appeal to
We will be greatly indebted to scholars of Deen and
our Muslim sisters to ensure that their bodies, their clothing and their
reviewers who bring errors and omissions to our
permissible means of beautification should all harness the complete
notice.
attention of their husbands. In this manner, they will secure their

dominion. It should be borne in mind that if they resort to

impermissible means of beautification, they will drive their husbands

further from them.
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be permissible. May Allaah Ι grant all Muslim women the ability to
When the wife takes the time and effort to beautify herself, she will be take heed and to practise.
saving her husband from major sins. In addition to this, she will also
be saving herself from unnecessary grief. We will now present to you some advices that an Arab poetess gave
to her daughter who was to be married. A brief explanation has been
Many women complain to the Ulema and Muftis that their husbands given in English. It is anticipated that if a woman in any age practises
do not love them and have no feelings for them. They lament about the teachings taught in these advices, Insha Allaah her home will be
how their husbands meticulously carry out the orders of their parents like a garden of Jannah.
without any consideration for her feelings. These husbands have no
time for their children and continuously scold their wives. The best A Saudi Arabian artist has presented these advices with beautiful
“Ta’weez” (amulet) for this situation is that the wife should use illustrations so that the messages are portrayed more vividly. In fact,
whatever means of beautification she has at her disposal to ensure you may even understand the messages without the English
that she remains attractive. She should be grateful for the natural explanations. We have dedicated these advices to every Muslim
beauty that Allaah Ι has given her and do her best to captivate the woman in the world. Please read them in conjunction with the
husband’s attention. When this is achieved, all her worries will illustrations and try to practise what is being said.
disappear. She will then have her husband eating out of her hand and
he will even ignore her major faults. He will then do nothing against
her wishes and no other woman will appeal to him irrespective of her The First Advice
beauty and charm.

My beloved daughter! Lead a life of contentment. Be content even
If a wife fails to charm her husband, the consequences will be
with simple foods. The dry bread and water eaten with contentment is
devastating. When at his office or company, another woman needs
better than a sumptuous meal eaten after your persistent complaints
only to affectionately ask, “What is the matter that you seem so sad
forced him to grudgingly provide it for you.
today?” thereafter even a married man’s heart melts. Then, she leads

him into sin. It may even happen that the most unattractive prostitute
is waiting on a side street for someone to pick her up. However, the
The Second Advice
passing man does not realise what she is hiding beneath the layers of
make-up until after he has committed the most despicable sin and she
has washed her face. In many cases, the man realises only after My beloved daughter! Always listen attentively to what your husband
marrying a second wife that she was previously married and that he says, give importance to what he says and do as he says. In this
was foolish to cause grief to his first wife. All these situations may well manner, you will soon win a place in his heart because it is not really
have been averted if the man’s wife did not dress like a maid-servant a person who is beloved, but what the person does that is most loved.
at home and if she had taken better care of herself.
The Third Advice
This piece of advice to women is given with conviction based on the
experiences of thousands of women. When a woman fails to maintain
a high standard of personal hygiene and fails to adorn herself for her My beloved daughter! Be his confidante and never disobey him. If you
husband, the couple may face serious problems. You may try it for disclose his secrets, he will lose trust in you and if you disobey him,
yourself. Whenever your husband looks at you, you should appear like you will not be safe from his wrath.
a bride to him. In this manner, you will avert many difficulties and
unpleasant situations that leave a bitter taste even though they may
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The Fourth Advice

My beloved daughter! Never display your happiness when he is
grieved i.e. share his sorrow. Never reveal any hidden grief when he Foreword
is happy and never complain about any of his qualities. Be happy
when he is happy (never spoil is happiness) because you will then be
counted among those who bring sadness to his heart. All praises belong to Allaah Ι and may His choicest mercies and
blessing be on His noble Nabi Muhammad ε.

The Fifth Advice We present to our Muslim sisters the lives of six exemplary Muslim
ladies from the best era who displayed excellent qualities as wives

and lifelong friends to their husbands. Islaam has taught us perfect
My beloved daughter! If you want him to honour you, you should
guidelines to lead our domestic lives and Rasulullaah ρ and the
have great respect for him and do as he pleases. He will then also be
Sahabah ψ have displayed excellent examples for us to emulate.
your best companion throughout every stage of your life.
However, we have ignored these teachings and therefore instead of
being happy, content and successful, we have become miserable,
The Sixth Advice
dissatisfied and unsuccessful. Married life has become a scourge for
many. Disputes between couples, bickering between daughters-and-

mothers-in-law, jealousy between sisters-in-law and couples failing to
My beloved daughter! Guard this advice with your life. Te bud of
fulfil the rights of each other have become commonplace nowadays.
happiness will not blossom in your life unless you suppress the desires
The repercussions of this have adversely affected not only the married
of your heart to please him and you prefer him above yourself in
couple, but entire families and communities.
every situation. With these advices, I leave you with Allaah Ι. May

Allaah Ι destine good for you and protect you from every evil.
By the infinite grace of Allaah Ι and the direction of Hadhrat Mufti
Aameen.
Ahmadur Rahmaan (A.R), I managed to diagnose the principle causes
for divorce and friction between married couples while serving at the
Ifta department of the Jaami’atul Uloom Islaamiyya. These are:

(cid:1) Problems with mothers-in-law and sisters-in-law (husband’s
sisters as well as husband’s brothers’ wives)
(cid:1) Unreasonable mothers-in-law
(cid:1) Ill-tempered husbands
(cid:1) Couples blaming each other for mishaps and constantly
quarrelling.

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