100 Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence: Believe In Yourself and Others Will Too

224 Pages·2010·1.63 MB·English

100
Ways
to Boost Your
Self-Confidence
Believe in Yourself
and Others Will Too
B G , P d
arton oldsmith h
Author of Emotional Fitness at Work
Franklin Lakes, N.J.
Copyright © 2010 by Barton Goldsmith
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Goldsmith, Barton.
100 Ways to boost your self-confidence : believe in yourself and others will too /
by Barton Goldsmith.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 978-1-60163-112-1 -- ISBN 978-1-60163-745-1 (ebook) 1. Self-confidence. I.
Title. II. Title: One hundred ways to boost your self-confidence.
BF575.S39G65 2010
158.1--dc22
2010008878
To my clients, readers, and listeners.
To the thousands of people who have e-mailed,
written, and telephoned to share their personal
stories with me: I know for a fact that I
would not have had the confidence to write
this book, if it wasn’t for your support.
Therefore I humbly dedicate it to
each and every one of you.
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Acknowledgments
At Career Press, I’d like to thank Acquisitions Editor
Michael Pye for asking me to write this book, and
Production Coordinator James Plasky for his assistance
and talent. I’d also like to thank Laurie Kelly-Pye for
her outstanding PR and willingness to go the extra
mile.
A great big thank-you to my literary agent, Katie
Boyle, and assistant, Lauren Chen, for their efforts and
support.
This book wouldn’t exist if not for the readers of my
column, and I will be forever grateful to the editors of
the hundreds of publications that have graciously run
my articles and allowed me to rant and elucidate. My
editors at The Ventura County Star, where my column
began, have truly launched my career and been nothing
but kind. Many thanks to Assistant Managing Editor
Mike Blackwell, Editor Julie Price, Editor & VP Joe
Howry, Publisher George H. Cogswell, III, and the
VC Star staff. In addition, I wish to acknowledge Bob
Jones and his team at Scripps-Howard News Service
for their unwavering support. I know I would not be
where I am if not for their encouragement and faith.
The team (and my dear friends) at KCLU/NPR
Radio have been incredibly supportive, innovative,
and just plain fun to be around. They include General
Manager Mary Olson, Program Director Jim Rondeau,
News Director Lance Orozco, Mia Karnatz-Shifflett,
Stephanie Angelini, and Jocelyne Rohrback. A special
thank you to my co-host, Dr. Stephen Trudeau, who
is also my best friend, and kindly contributed both
inspiration and a chapter for this book. In addition, I
must acknowledge the many guests who have shared
their wisdom with our listening audience. I feel as
though I “get schooled,” in the best sense, every week.
Thank you to my family and friends, including
Keaton and Oliver Koechli, who are too wonderful for
words, and my nephews, David and Daniel Richmond,
who make me proud. Thank you to my assistant, Mary
Trudeau, who makes my life work and reminds me to
eat. Thank you also to Shelley MacEwen for reading
anything I write and giving her unedited opinion,
as well as my dear friends Michael Park and Kevin
Connelly, Linda Gerrits, Jeb Adams, Leigh Leshner,
Jim Cathcart, Diane and Dennis Merritt Jones, and
Nancy and David Padberg.
I am honored to have learned from my colleagues
in the (sometimes opposing) worlds of business,
journalism, and psychology, including Gary Chapman,
Marjory Abrams, Judith Orloff, Harville Hendrix,
Bernie Siegel, Dan Maddux, Marci Schimoff, Susan
Shapiro Barash, Kevin Hanley, Bambi Holzer, Karen
Leland, Debra Mandel, Shel Horowitz, Ed Rigsbee,
Pete Lakey, Brad Oberwager, Sietze and Nancy
Vanderheide, John James, James Hollis, Helen Fisher,
Joe Phelps, Larry Winget, Jeff Zeig, Shawn Christopher
Shea, Anne Sheffield, Gerald Jampolsky, William
Glasser, Scott James, Linda Metzger, and Rick Welch.
Some of my mentors have passed on, but they all
made the world a better place before they left: Albert
Ellis, David Viscott, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, and Indus
Arthur.
I have had the privilege of being a resource for and
working with a number of educational, leadership, and
mastermind organizations (the best part is that I got
to learn and grow right along with them): The Young
Presidents Organization (YPO), The Young Entrepreneur’s
Organization (YEO), The World Presidents Organization
(WPO), and Vistage (formally TEC, The Executive
Committee).
I have also had the opportunity to speak to many
businesses and associations around the world, and
those experiences have helped to shape the ideas shared
in this book. This list would be too long to print, but
I thank you all, and I am honored that you continue
to allow me to share my experiences, ideas, and a few
jokes.
I also wish to thank those people and companies
who have worked with me and given the greatest gift
of all: their trust.
Thank you KJ, for a most unlikely, but wonderful
friendship. And thanks to my friends at Firenze Osterio:
Chef Fabio, Lisa, Tamara, Little Lisa, and John.
Lastly I must give some extra treats to Mercy the
Wonder-Dog and Piewackett the Magical Cat for the
gift of allowing me to rescue them and then rescuing
me right back.
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Contents
Introduction: Confidence Always
Lies Somewhere Within................................. 15
1. 10 Instant Confidence-Builders..............1 7
2. Negativity Kills Confidence....................1 9
3. Push Through the Upset........................2 1
4. A Secret to Happiness............................2 3
5. Be Patient With Yourself........................ 25
6. Be Prepared........................................... 27
7. Recognition Is More Powerful Than
Money....................................................3 0
8. Embrace Your Fears............................... 31
9. Find a Mentor........................................ 33
10. Maintain the Machine............................ 35
11. Clarity Creates Confidence.....................3 7
12. Be Open to New Ideas...........................3 9
13. Nobility..................................................4 0
14. Strong Foundations................................4 2
15. Multiple Intelligences.............................4 4