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Secrets Of The Alpha Man How to Get Rid of the Nice Guy … and Get Laid By Carlos Xuma SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN © 2003 –2004 – DD Publications – All Rights Reserved – Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit www.datingdynamics.com or www.seductionmethod.com or www.alphaseduction.com for more information. 2 This work is copyrighted by the author. No unauthorized duplication or presentation allowed. Copyright © 2003-2004, DD Publications All Rights Reserved (Ver. DD-004-4.19.2004) www.alphaseduction.com SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN © 2003 –2004 – DD Publications – All Rights Reserved – Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit www.datingdynamics.com or www.seductionmethod.com or www.alphaseduction.com for more information. 3 “Man, I see in fight club the strongest and smartest men who've ever lived. I see all this potential, and I see squandering. God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables; slaves with white collars. Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don't need. We're the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War's a spiritual war... our Great Depression is our lives. We've all been raised on television to believe that one day we'd all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won't. And we're slowly learning that fact. And we're very, very pissed off.” - Tyler Durden – “Fight Club” LONDON, England (Reuters) – 7/2003 -- Geniuses and criminals may not seem to have much in common but they both do their best work in their 30s -- and mainly to impress the opposite sex. When Satoshi Kanazawa, of the University of Canterbury in New Zealand, studied biographies of prominent, mostly male scientists he discovered that they made their key discovery before their mid 30s, around the same age that criminal behavior peaks. He believes the male competitive urge to attract females is a driving force for the scientific and criminal achievements, according to New Scientist magazine. "They do whatever they do" in order to win the sexual attention of women, Kanazawa said. He added that the competitive drive decreases with age and as men's priority shifts from competing for women to taking care of their offspring. "Kanazawa also found that marriage dampens the drive in both arenas," the magazine added. (Reprinted from CNN.com) SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN © 2003 –2004 – DD Publications – All Rights Reserved – Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit www.datingdynamics.com or www.seductionmethod.com or www.alphaseduction.com for more information. 4 “When women go wrong, men go right after them." Mae West. "Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another." HL Mencken "Even if man could understand women he still wouldn't believe it." AW Brown “Women are never disarmed by compliments. Men always are. That is the difference between the sexes.” Oscar Wilde SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN © 2003 –2004 – DD Publications – All Rights Reserved – Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit www.datingdynamics.com or www.seductionmethod.com or www.alphaseduction.com for more information. 5 Introduction .........................................................................................................13 Why do we need this book? ............................................................................14 My Story..............................................................................................................23 A Few Words About Change...............................................................................25 IMPORTANT: You Better Find Your Pain And Use It..........................................29 Anger...............................................................................................................31 Part I: The Science of Alpha Behavior ................................................................34 ALPHA.............................................................................................................34 More Alpha Definition ......................................................................................35 Alpha Man Characteristics...............................................................................36 Famous Alpha Men .........................................................................................38 STAR TREK is Good for You...........................................................................40 Beta Guys........................................................................................................43 Self-defense ....................................................................................................44 A.M.P. .................................................................................................................47 Dominance ......................................................................................................47 Submission......................................................................................................48 The Pecking Order ..........................................................................................49 Congruency .....................................................................................................52 Asking For What You Want .............................................................................55 Survivor Instinct...............................................................................................56 Navy Seals...................................................................................................57 Bushido – The Warrior Way.............................................................................60 Summary Traits of the Alpha Man ...................................................................63 Nothing Is Neutral ...............................................................................................64 Part II: How to Compensate for Your Shortfalls ..................................................65 Your Age .........................................................................................................65 SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN © 2003 –2004 – DD Publications – All Rights Reserved – Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit www.datingdynamics.com or www.seductionmethod.com or www.alphaseduction.com for more information. 6 Your Hair .........................................................................................................67 Your Money .....................................................................................................68 Your Car ..........................................................................................................68 Forget About The Size of Your Dick ................................................................69 Your Intelligence..............................................................................................70 Your Looks ......................................................................................................71 Your Job ..........................................................................................................74 Your Physique .................................................................................................75 Your Self-Confidence ......................................................................................76 Comfort............................................................................................................79 Accountability ..................................................................................................80 Who Cares What They Think?.........................................................................80 You Make the Rules ........................................................................................82 Risk-Taking......................................................................................................83 Persistence .........................................................................................................86 Giving Up – The Exception..............................................................................87 Gender Roles ..................................................................................................90 Ways to Develop Your Alpha Power................................................................92 Always Have A Say......................................................................................94 Learn to LOVE a Challenge .........................................................................95 Long-Term Vision vs. Short Term Rewards .................................................95 State of Mind.......................................................................................................97 Playfulness and Sophistication......................................................................102 Physical Dominance......................................................................................105 Tallness......................................................................................................106 Physique ....................................................................................................107 Diet ............................................................................................................107 Body Language .............................................................................................110 The Alpha Handshake...................................................................................112 SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN © 2003 –2004 – DD Publications – All Rights Reserved – Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit www.datingdynamics.com or www.seductionmethod.com or www.alphaseduction.com for more information. 7 Woman’s Intuition..........................................................................................112 Eye Contact ......................................................................................................116 Relax!................................................................................................................118 Shyness – The Alpha Inhibitor ..........................................................................120 Impatience – The Alpha Killer ...........................................................................121 Social Status/Social Perception ........................................................................124 You Better Be Able to Walk Away .................................................................125 The Politics Of Haggling ............................................................................125 Hyper-vigilance .................................................................................................129 Obsession .........................................................................................................130 Monogamy, Polygamy, what these women do to me… ....................................132 Never Ask for Permission – OR Forgiveness....................................................135 Never Apologize................................................................................................136 Forget Yourself..................................................................................................138 The Conversational Style of an Alpha...............................................................141 Don’t Ask Questions That Can Be Turned Down...........................................143 Don’t Argue With Rhetoric .............................................................................145 Don’t Listen TOO Much .................................................................................151 Frustration .....................................................................................................152 Voice Exercises.............................................................................................160 Pain Threshold..................................................................................................165 Male Emotional Strength ...............................................................................165 Perceived Value................................................................................................166 Alpha Lifestyle...................................................................................................170 Yin-Yang and Balance...................................................................................171 Alpha Socialization............................................................................................174 Networking.....................................................................................................175 Get Used To Saying Things You Might Not Mean.........................................175 Alpha Thinking ..................................................................................................177 SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN © 2003 –2004 – DD Publications – All Rights Reserved – Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit www.datingdynamics.com or www.seductionmethod.com or www.alphaseduction.com for more information. 8 Brain Language .............................................................................................177 Revise Your Rules.........................................................................................179 Early failures in life are learned limitations – not true limitations. ..................182 Preparation....................................................................................................183 Getting Rid of Fear ........................................................................................185 Emotional Intelligence.......................................................................................190 Emotions .......................................................................................................190 How an Alpha Man Uses Emotions ...............................................................194 Coping Skills..................................................................................................196 Organic Problem Solving...............................................................................198 Autogenic Training.....................................................................................199 Pain And Pleasure Motivators...........................................................................204 Don't Ignore Reality - It Has Teeth ................................................................205 Proactive Nature............................................................................................212 Disclaimer for Crazy Women.........................................................................214 PASSION..........................................................................................................216 Goals.................................................................................................................219 The Boob Tube..............................................................................................223 DISTRACTIONS – Focus and Balance .........................................................225 Bravado, Boldness, Cockiness, Confidence, Self-esteem ................................227 Alpha Self-Confidence ......................................................................................229 Stop Defining Yourself in Her Eyes ...............................................................232 Quantum Leap Method..................................................................................234 Verbal Sparring with Women ............................................................................238 Consistency and Inconsistency – Testing......................................................243 Adventure and Danger – The Alpha Man as “Bad Boy” ....................................245 Part III: POWER – The Alpha Man Light Saber.................................................250 Dependency Theory Of Power and Bargaining .............................................254 Don’t Misunderstand the Power of Money.....................................................257 SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN © 2003 –2004 – DD Publications – All Rights Reserved – Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit www.datingdynamics.com or www.seductionmethod.com or www.alphaseduction.com for more information. 9 Find Your Power............................................................................................259 Great Leadership Traits.................................................................................259 Emotional Self-Control ......................................................................................267 Emotional Caregiving.................................................................................269 Emotional Maturity .....................................................................................270 Batteries are Full...............................................................................................271 Purge the Beta – Welcome in the Alpha........................................................273 Get Rid of Those Whiney She-Man Boyfriends of Yours...............................274 Hang With the Other Alphas ......................................................................274 Indirect vs. Direct Attraction – How it Works .....................................................275 Why Women Want and NEED Resistance........................................................279 Make it Hard...............................................................................................280 Don’t Be Fooled.............................................................................................281 Subordination ................................................................................................282 Let Her Fall In Love First ...............................................................................286 Mixed Signals ................................................................................................287 Y.A.S.S. – Recognize the Chick Players .......................................................290 No Strings Attached.......................................................................................293 Mystery..........................................................................................................294 Marinade....................................................................................................295 The Three Domains of Interaction .................................................................296 Buying Temperature ..................................................................................296 Peacocking....................................................................................................297 Lipstick Tactic................................................................................................299 How to Make Compliments Work ..................................................................299 The Simplest Sure-fire Opener Ever..............................................................301 Opening Sets.................................................................................................302 Isolating Your Target From the Set................................................................306 Lighter Fluid ...............................................................................................306 SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN © 2003 –2004 – DD Publications – All Rights Reserved – Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit www.datingdynamics.com or www.seductionmethod.com or www.alphaseduction.com for more information. 10 A Caveat for Good Looking Guys......................................................................308 Alpha Man Re-Framing.....................................................................................309 How to Tell When a Woman is Lying to You.....................................................311 Jealousy............................................................................................................313 Fun = Sex in a Woman’s Mind ..........................................................................316 Sexual Chemistry – The Missing Factor........................................................317 Dancing – The Power Of Rhythm..................................................................321 What Sex Means to Each Sex ..........................................................................322 Stay In Control ..................................................................................................324 How to Know When You’re In Control – Read the Signs...............................324 What She Doesn’t Know Helps You. .............................................................325 How to Know When to Leave ........................................................................326 Alpha Humor .....................................................................................................328 What a Woman Is..............................................................................................332 She Can’t Be Your Best Friend......................................................................334 Rapport – The Critical Success Factor of Seduction.........................................336 Get Rid Of The Infatuation Up Front .................................................................339 CSFs.................................................................................................................344 A Note On Overcoming Objections ...................................................................348 Diagnosing Your Game With Women ...............................................................350 Step 1: The Introduction ................................................................................350 Step 2: Close for Phone Number or Email.....................................................352 Step 3: Phone call for meeting/Close for Meeting..........................................353 Step 4: First meeting/Rapport........................................................................355 Step 5: First Kiss ...........................................................................................356 Step 6: First Sex...........................................................................................357 Defuse Your Enemies .......................................................................................360 Cockblocker...................................................................................................360 Heckler’s Dance.........................................................................................364 SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN © 2003 –2004 – DD Publications – All Rights Reserved – Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit www.datingdynamics.com or www.seductionmethod.com or www.alphaseduction.com for more information. 11 Tame Your Demons..........................................................................................367 Alpha Trait Review............................................................................................371 Self-Development..............................................................................................373 The Meaning Of Life..........................................................................................376 The Alpha Man Code ........................................................................................378 You Know You’re An Alpha When….................................................................379 APPENDIX I: How to Sex Her Right..................................................................381 Make it comfortable .......................................................................................382 Use Variety at the Right Time........................................................................382 APPENDIX II: How To Stay With A Woman......................................................384 APPENDIX III: REQUIRED ALPHA MAN LEARNING MATERIALS.................386 SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN © 2003 –2004 – DD Publications – All Rights Reserved – Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit www.datingdynamics.com or www.seductionmethod.com or www.alphaseduction.com for more information. 12 Get Your Game Face On SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN © 2003 –2004 – DD Publications – All Rights Reserved – Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit www.datingdynamics.com or www.seductionmethod.com or www.alphaseduction.com for more information. 13 Introduction Haven’t you always wondered what it was that certain men – GREAT men – had that made them so successful in life, how they managed to rise to the top of the heap? You’ve probably even heard and understood that the men who get the most out of life – the most women, the most money, the most success, better jobs, the most sex and satisfaction overall – those men were of a slightly different breed than, say, the clerk at the 7-11 or the Circle-K. They have a certain dominance about them. Yes, they are assertive, but it’s much more than that. They have some innate character quality that allows them to be more confident, persistent, and generally get whatever they go after. It’s called Alpha Male behavior in scientific terminology. We’ll call it Alpha Man behavior for the work we’re about to do. This quality is what I’ve studied for years, and now I want to pass along the secrets of it to you. You see, the fantastic thing about this behavior is that it’s not something you have to be born with, as it is in the animal kingdom. There, if you’re a submissive male, you will only be the animal that gets the scraps of food, the job of defending and bowing down to the Alpha Man, and you’ll probably never ever get any sex. Now, if you behave this way in the human world, as a submissive male, you’ll get the same results. But you’re not condemned to this fate if you have the ability to learn the right behaviors. That’s right. You can change your status in the world from the needy to the wanted. When I was younger, I knew that success with women was important, but it really reflected a higher level of status in other areas. Getting laid was really an offshoot of a confident and aggressive male pattern of behavior that meant success in ALL areas of my life. If you succeed with women, you have the seeds of greatness for success with your career, your family, your friends, your hobbies. Ask yourself: What would you give to know what the Alpha Man is made of? Well, I’m about to show you how to find out. Some of the areas I’ve researched in the creation of this book: - Biological cause and affect of the Alpha Man SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN © 2003 –2004 – DD Publications – All Rights Reserved – Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit www.datingdynamics.com or www.seductionmethod.com or www.alphaseduction.com for more information. 14 - Sociology – influences reinforcing our patterns of behavior - Human motivational psychology - Dating and seduction of women - Body language - NLP - Essential Leadership Abilities - Charisma - Eastern Philosophy - Martial Arts - Negotiation and persuasion - Sales I’ve investigated these and many other areas of human potential so that I could discover what the Alpha Man was all about, and how I could model this prodigal man for others to study and learn from. Not just to understand, but to make massive changes in beliefs and behaviors to turn your life around and make it what you want. The world has changed quite a bit over the last couple hundred years. What once was a fairly stable landscape of male-female interaction and behavior has evolved (though not in the same way we have evolved) into a rocky terrain of uncertainty and despair. Why do we need this book? Men, more than ever, have lost their way. They’ve fallen prey to a popular media that tells women they can have it all, be liberated, and they think that this is now their birthright and entitlement. Women are acting more like men, and it’s only because most men don’t act like men, so someone has to. SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN © 2003 –2004 – DD Publications – All Rights Reserved – Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit www.datingdynamics.com or www.seductionmethod.com or www.alphaseduction.com for more information. 15 Women need men to be Alpha Men now, more than ever. They don’t need “Nice Guys.” They also no longer need men for the reasons they once did – hunting for food, protection from rival tribes, physical strength, etc. They can buy their meat safely in a Safeway. They can pay their taxes and have the Army, Navy, Air Force, or Marines protect their homeland, as well as the local police and firemen to be on call for their emergencies. They can hire a man to move their stuff or fix their appliances. They no longer need us to survive. So now a woman is free to feel attracted to the specific behaviors that she once used to decode which guy would be good for her and which guy wouldn’t. Dominant males in our society are in the minority. The truth is, they always have been. Have you ever watched one of those nature shows where the male lion gets to sire his offspring with many females – as many as he can find time to bang between naps? Well, I hate to tell you this, but real life for humans works much in the same way. The men with the genes that grant the characteristics to be most successful in their environment are the winners in this race. Note: This does not mean the strongest, or the smartest. Just the “fittest.” All organisms in this planet have one imperative that overrides all our other conscious thoughts. When it comes down to it, the one thing we will always struggle to do is to survive. Remember one thing: This is a course in DOMINANCE, not aggressiveness. They are not the same thing. I’m going to teach most of these concepts from a particular vantage point – that of the single man that wants to date and sleep with single women. However, I’m going to branch out from just this one area and show you how Alpha Man behaviors are demonstrated in many other areas of your life. I’ll touch on your sphere of influence in the world, which includes: o Your job o Your friendships