My Don Pee on Leg t Me and Tell Raining It's * « ^ ^ America Toughes s Family Court Sheindlin with Josh Getlin Author of Beauty Fades, Dumb is Fc 111 Digitized by the Internet Archive 2012 in http://www.archive.org/details/dontpeeonmylegteOOshei Don't Pee on My Leg Me and Tell Raining It's My Don't Pee on Leg Me and Tell Raining It's America's Toughest Family Court Judge Speaks Out iMrh^QhoinHlin with Josh Getlin HarperPerennial ADivisionofHarperCoWinsPublisbers — The names of the children, other litigants, and family members that appeared in court before me have been changed in order to protect their privacy, with the exception ofa few cases that became well-known and were reported in the media or otherwise published. In those cases the names have notbeen changed. A hardcover edition of this book was published in 1996 by Harper- Collins Publishers. don't pee on my leg and tell me it's raining. Copyright © 1996 by Judy Sheindlin with Josh Getlin. All rights reserved. Printed in the United States ofAmerica. No part ofthis book may be used or repro- duced in any manner whatsoever without written permission except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews. For information address HarperCollins Publishers, Inc., 10 East 53rd Street, NewYork, NY 10022. HarperCollins books may be purchased for educational, business, or sales promotional use. For information please write: Special Markets Department, HarperCollins Publishers, Inc., 10 East 53rd Street, New York, NY 10022. First HarperPerennialeditionpublished 1997. DesignedbyAlma HochhauserOrenstein The LibraryofCongresshas cataloguedthehardcoveredition as follows: Sheindlin, Judy Don'tpeeon mylegandtellme it's raining : Americas toug—hest familycourtjudgespeaksout/JudySheindlinwithJoshGetlin. 1sted. p. cm. ISBN 0-06-017321-1 1. Ne—wYork (State). FamilyCourt (CityofNewYork) 2. Juvenile courts NewYork (N.Y) 3. Juvenilejustice, Administration of — NewYork (N.Y.) 4. Juvenilejustice, Administration of United States. I. Getlin, Josh. II. Title. KFN5116.5.Z9S54 1996 346.74701'5,0269—dc20 [347.4706150269] 95-46424 ISBN 0-06-092794-1 (pbk.) /RRD20 990001 19 18 17 For Murry, Ethel, Jerry, and Elaine Contents Acknowledgments ix Introduction Enough IsEnough 1 1 Don't Pee on My Leg and Tell Me It's Raining 11 2 This Isn't Kiddy Court; It's Criminal College 33 3 Judicial Diversity Doesn't Mean a Mixed Bag of Nuts 63 4 "Let Us Pay" Hasn't Worked; Let's Try "Make Them Pay" 81 5 Foster Care Fiasco 107 6 Custody Wars Are Battles Without Winners 135 7 System Scammers 155 8 Get Real, Get Responsible, or: I'm a Victim, I'm a Victim, I'm a Victim 175 9 Media Morality: Missing in Action? 205 10 Stoking My Fire 223 Conclusion People, Not Government, CreateOpportunity 233